Most all of us have at one point been there. We're breezing along in a fantastic relationship where everything is just going great, but then suddenly, something happens. Before your head can grasp what is going on, its over, and you find yourself alone thinking about how to win your ex love back.

This time in your life, alone, will be tough, no doubt about it. You'll be alone and constantly wondering just what exactly went wrong.

They say time heals all wounds, but, you're not the type of person who just sits and waits for time to heal the pain you feel. You keep thinking that breaking up was a mistake and that you'd want to spend the rest of life with this person.

Well seeing that you're not going to sit around waiting and that you really are proactive, there are steps, that if followed will help win your love back.

Obviously, the first order of business is getting your mind cleared. If you need to,cry, and release your pain. Get out and about. Go walking around and try not to think too much, especially about your ex. I know, easier said than done, right? But you must clear your head, so that, you can decide about what you plan on doing.

Once you've cleared your mind, take a good honest look at your relationship with this person and make up your mind if this relationship is really what worth it. If it is worth it, than figure out what went wrong in this relationship to cause the breakup and if you have the fortitude to put it back together.

Couples in broken relationships get back with each other all the time, some last, and some wither away and end permanently. So, you need to be crystal clear on whether you still desire this relationship and that you're willing to repair this relationship.

If the reason for the breakup was simple and fixable, fix the problem immediately and you'll be together again. If however, the relationship has been under stress for awhile, fixing it may take some work, but fixing things between you is possible. If you desire to win your ex love back, you'll do the work necessary to accomplish that goal.

What went wrong with the relationship? You really need to spend some thought on this. Was it a specific thing, or did you both just drift apart? Were either of you jealous or obsessive of one another? Did you constantly nag at him/her about were they were or what they were doing? Was the breakup about a trust or lack of trust issue?

Broken relationships share many common reasons why they break apart, the above are just a few. These types of issues may take some work to deal with. If you, yourself, are dealing with insecurity issues, you may want to seek out a professional counselor's assistance. Are you really prepared to do what is necessary to fix the relationship and get your ex back, assuming its worth saving?

Once you've discovered what split the relationship and you figure things can be resolved, you'll have to have a discussion with your ex about mending the relationship and what has to be done to get things to work between you both. The problems that were uncovered need to be addressed by both parties and both will have to work with each other in order for the relationship to continue.

All relationships come with their own dynamics of what makes them work, most aren't easy, and it always takes effort from both partners to make them work. If you're attempting to win your ex love back, be committed to doing whatever it takes to make a happy relationship for the both of you.