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Winning Him Back After A Break Up – If It Seems That Nothing Is Working In Your Situation Then You Should Try These
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Winning Him Back After A Break Up – If it Seems That Nothing is Working In Your Situation Then You Should Try These

Your ex splits up with you. In the aftermath, you're left wondering why... Was there something you could've done differently?

Didn't he love you as much as you loved him? What do you have to do to go about winning him back? It's a commonly accepted myth that relationships are hard to salvage after a breakup.

The fact is, men who do the breaking up go through the same emotional turmoil as their partners, and have the same moments of doubt and sadness. If you know how men get into relationships, it makes winning him back pretty simple.

For starters, men are attracted to novelty and mystery. This is part of the reason why “familiarity breeds contempt.” Sometimes, the mystery can go out of a relationship and cause it to fail.

If you take yourself out of contact post-breakup and take some time to work on you, you can help rekindle your air of mystery.

You don't need to make major changes to your life to go about winning him back-- anything small but noticeable is going to get him wondering and wanting to know more about you.

Secondly, men are attracted to what they think they can't have. After a breakup, many women end up virtually throwing themselves at their exes, hoping they'll decide to take them back.

The trouble is, men don't want what's easy. By breaking up with you, your ex has made you desirable by putting you further out of his reach.

This means that all you need to do is to draw his curiosity... absolutely nothing. As long as you seem happy and content to live your life, your ex will wonder why you're not desperate to get back with him.

And, because nothing is as sexy as a confident and independent woman, he'll end up desperate to get back with you!

Third, though it might be tempting to make sure he knows how badly he hurt you, nobody likes feeling guilty. Your ex won't want to be around you if it's a constant reminder of the pain of your breakup.

Instead, focus on radiating happy, positive feelings. Everyone likes people who make them feel good, and your ex is no exception.

Lastly, learn to separate good ideas from bad ones. Don't do anything purely to attract your ex's attention-- you won't end up winning him back, but you might end up looking crazy.

This includes things like drastically changing your looks, rebounding with other men to make him jealous, or making it obvious that you're trying to get his attention.

Winning him back after a rough breakup might take awhile, but it's easier than you think. With a change in your perception and the right attitude, you'll be able to get your ex's attention and leave him kicking himself for ever splitting up with you in the first place.


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