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You Need To Survive A Breakup Before Finding Your Way Back To Your Ex
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You Need to Survive A Breakup Before Finding Your Way Back to Your Ex

Can I survive a breakup and being alone when all I want is to find my way back to my ex?

It is more than just being heartbroken, it is as if you have a hole in your chest; a deep sadness which is often comparable to mourning. Being alone is often a very scary thought and may even be a cause for panic. How can you turn an almost impossible situation and depressive state into a positive one? No one in this situation would ever believe that this is your chance and not your demise. It is actually very true; this is the chance of a life time especially if you want to find your way back to your ex and to regain your relationship and love for each other.

The benefits of being alone in this stage after the break up give you the time to reflect on your problems, time to find solutions to the problems, time to work on oneself and time to adventure out and do things that you have always wanted to do.

Take the time to reflect on your past problems.

The problems were the reason why the relationship fell apart. In this phase it is good to actually write down your problems that you had vs. the problems that your ex had. It should be done in all honesty, since the only one you will be cheating is yourself. These problems; if even so small may be the culprit of a large problem that has emerged. One example could be jealousy. If you ex was jealous and it drove you crazy, then there might be an underlying problem that caused the jealousy to come about. You now have time to dig deeper to find out reasons why it evolved the way it did. What actually drove the two of you apart? My suggestion is to write it all down. It really helps to get the emotions to paper and to help you organize your thoughts.

It is time to find solutions to your problems.

If you have done your homework then you will be ready for this next phase of using your time apart from your ex wisely. Here you have your problems written down. Now take a few days off to let the problem phase settle and of course you need a break as well. Taking a mandatory break will give you a fresh approach to finding solutions to the problems. There is always a solution to a problem, but this task can be one of the hardest tasks. How do you know that the solution will work? The main thing is to work on it, even if it isn’t a perfect solution. It is a start. Once again try to see if your solution will potentially work for your partner. If not, then think of alternatives that will work for the both of you. Remember it will take work in finding your way back to your ex.

It is time to work on you.

I want my ex-boyfriend to love me again; or your ex-girlfriend. The situation seems unbearable. I know that you are heartbroken and want to know if you can get your ex back. Just be patient and keep working on yourself.

If you have done the first two steps, you will find that there is a way back. Here you experience the first glimpse of promise and hope. There is light in your heart again. Partners who have broken up can find their way back again, especially if the problems are worked on with a fresh approach. Taking time off as in a break up can often strengthen the relationship again. Now that you have strength, go and try to become a better, more understanding person and a better listener. Try to practice what your partner was missing in the relationship.

Its time to adventure out and do things you always wanted to do.

By this time your strength should be regained and if not fully; it will return. Be positive and see life as an adventure. Dare to do something new that you always wanted to do. Call an old friend and get connected again. This can be very gratifying and will help in your self-confidence again.

I still can't survive the break up.

This is common for people who are in a depressive state of mind. You are definitely not alone and there is help out there. If you are unsure about taking on help then I have a few suggestions that may be the answer to what you are looking for. My suggestion is to read a book on how to get over the depression and into a positive state of mind. There are some very good and helpful books on getting over a breakup and getting an ex back. By reading the reviews you can get an idea if it covers the points that you are in need of. Try this method, it may help you to get out of a depressive state and bring happiness in to your life again.

A little secrete. The feeling of being alone is a state of mind that you need work on. Once you have made steps by working on yourself, you are not alone anymore, you have yourself as the largest supporter and that is what will rescue you. Yes, you can survive a breakup and once you regain your strength you can go and find your way back to your ex again.


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