-MODERN LOVE- “Will you be my….?” Nowadays titles run rapid. It seems as though the energy, time, and sentiment have left our hearts and exists only as basic meanings. These actions of love are at risk of facing extinction. What happened to the days where titles were earned and cherish by merits, and “will you be my”…. Was a question our hearts longed to experience from both parties involved in taking the next step.

In today’s society “Will you be my….” Is a question we hear and answer quite frequently on the back of notes or in a text message, and the significance of such a special gesture has been stripped of its roots and is a rarity to experience in its true form. Modern day this gesture has become an excuse, a mask, an anxiety attack, and the potential threat of losing one’s self to gain another. We use this question in inverse ways. “We ask will you be my boyfriend/ girlfriend” before “Will you be my friend.” “We ask will you give yourself to me” before “Will you take the time to get to know me”, and my personal favorite “We ask will you marry and love me forever” before we ask “Will you tolerate and like me forever”.

Modern love has many titles and many faces. It has many questions and many answers, but what it lacks is the time, energy, and sentiment. If we get back to “Will you be my….” In its purest form, we will cherish and honor the one’s we love, and bring back the importance and relevance of titles. “Will you be my….” Is a precious gift of the heart and it is a notion that should be approached with the utmost significance and respect.

Love requires a deeper meaning and understanding of true value. The problem is how we establish the value of those we love, and what we do with this information once we have acquired it. We have a tendency to measure everything by worth and desire and we mock what we think is unworthy and undesirable. We put our time and energy in our hearts burning desires and create an emotional fuel that can sometimes erupt in flames. Is it our hearts that measure what we desire, or our minds bounded until we draw a blank thought? Burning desire is motivation for confusion, but sensible desire is motivation for a greater desire, and an unimaginable worth.