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Bad Boy Attraction? – Oh Heck No!
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Bad Boy Attraction? – Oh Heck No!

Have you ever known someone who seems to have a bad boy attraction? I have often wondered what was up with that. I mean, you have to know going in how it’s going to end up. You fall in love, give your all, and he treats you like crap. You break up, you feel rotten, end of story.

I found out the hard way a long time ago that those ‘sexy dangerous’ bad boys are nothing but trouble. Yeah they get your hormones and emotions all jacked up, but at the end of it all, where are you?

Sometimes I think the attraction to bad boys is nothing more than a woman not being good at finding the kind of guy that is right for them. Are some women just so desperate to have a guy that they will take what they can get? From the outside, it could appear that they are just continually attracted to bad boys.

I know someone who is like that. She is very insecure and feels she always needs to be with someone. She doesn’t feel that she really deserves a quality man who will treat her well, so she hooks up with whoever. She is a perfect target for guys who want someone they can control.

Whatever the reason is, if you find yourself constantly dating the wrong type of guy, you might consider making some changes in your life. Wouldn’t it be nice to have a healthy relationship that makes you happy for a change?

The first thing you will have to figure out is why you don’t think you deserve a guy who will treat you right. Some women seem to attract guys who are bad boys. The majority of them have very low self-esteem and really think they don’t deserve any better.

If this sounds like you, why do you feel like that? You need to get to the bottom of what makes you feel less than worthy. It may not be easy and it may take time, but you can work through those negative thoughts you have about yourself.

If you feel you can’t do it alone, talk to a trusted friend or maybe even a counselor to help you work it out. Keep in mind this is a process and it won’t necessarily be quick or easy to deal with. Be patient with yourself. It might have taken years for you to build and maintain the negative self image you have. It will take a little time to ‘retire’ it.

As you start feeling better about yourself, you will have more confidence and the ‘real you’ will start shining through to other people. You should start attracting people into your life who are more positive for you to be around.

A positive image of yourself will help you in all areas of life, not just dating. As you become more confident about who you are, you might be surprised at how easily things fall in place sometimes. Just put that bad boy attraction to rest once and for all. Get rid of the insecurities and let the real you shine through.


Street Talk

They are much more fun to watch in action than to be involved in their action...dangerous guys

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  about 8 years ago

Oh yeah, just a heartache waiting to happen. I always told my girls to find one who could be bad, but chooses to be good to be with you...lol.

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  about 8 years ago

Very interesting article Lacey!

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  about 8 years ago

You hit it on the nose. Great article Lacey

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  about 8 years ago

thank you so much Sharon!

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  about 8 years ago
melissa3  

This describes me after my divorce. I kept attracting the wrong type of guys and I know my self esteem was low at the time. I started reading books about positive thinking and started seeing myself differently when I looked in the mirror. Then, I met my present husband who is the sweetest and most caring man. I couldn't have asked for more in a husband. Great Article.

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  about 8 years ago

Thanks Melissa. Glad you got that self esteem built back up and found yourself a good man!

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  about 8 years ago
Joan S  

I think you're right about it being a self image issue Lacey. Also, Hollywood has glamorized the bad boy, so that we associate them with some kind of animal magnetism. I personally am afraid of them. No appeal.

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  about 8 years ago

Smart move Joan, they are nothin but trouble. :)

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  about 8 years ago

Wow, one could write a book about this. Nice article

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  about 8 years ago

thank you Wayne!

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  about 8 years ago

Can't see why women fall for those types anyhow.

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  about 8 years ago

Because they are sexy and hot and unleash something primal in us....then we figure it out too late. Did this once or twice, but am a lot smarter now. LOL

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  about 8 years ago
Linda14  

Good article, it really tells it like it is.

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  about 8 years ago

Thanks Linda! Just hate seeing good women limit themselves!

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  about 8 years ago
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