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Build Confidence With Women: The Don'ts
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Build Confidence With Women: The Don\'ts

It is now common knowledge that many men struggle to become (or remain) confident around women they're attracted to. Some men (actually, many men) also lack confidence around women in general; whether it be co-workers, acquaintances, friends' girlfriends, etc. I understand, because in the past I've definitely had my issues with confidence around women. Through trial, error, and lots of effort, I've learned to overcome most (if not all) of my confidence issues surrounding the subject of women; and I will share some of that insight with you today.

Rather than bombard you with an essay of what you should do, think, learn, and become - I'm going to provide it in a format of what NOT to do instead. Sound good? Well then, let's jump right in it, shall we?

Don't read countless amounts of dating books

We know there are plenty of books out there in this day and age providing tips, tricks, and tactics for getting "good", but many men get stuck reading book after book and article after article without applying themselves and taking action. By all means, read books and articles, even watch some videos, but apply yourself and take action!

Don't start approaching every girl you see

The "pick up artist" mindset is not a good mind set for you in the long run. Unfortunately, lots of men have been sucked into the "pick up artist" mentality of doing approach after approach in order to build confidence with women. While approaching will allow you to push your limits, learn to talk to women better, and build confidence and experience; it is possible to over do it. And if you over do it, it's going to turn you into a robot, make you socially awkward, and annoy your friends. Approach women by all means, but learn to do it in a natural manner.

Don't keep seeking advice from other women

This one may seem counter-intuitive, but many women will give this same advice: "just be confident" or "be yourself" or "be different" or "be a nice guy". The problem with this is that many women are very vague with their advice, and will tell you they want a nice, confident, "different" guy. Well this may sound like good advice, they will provide you with the details of what this guy should be like, and in reality it's what they think he should be - using their logical mind to come up with the answers for you. Some of this is actually good advice, and so - what's the problem with this? Women are attracted to men based on emotion, so it's very hard for them to explain the type of men they actually feel strong attraction for. Want better advice? Seek genuinely confident men who are successful with women.

So now, you have a strong idea of what to avoid when it comes to success with women. For a list of what to do to succeed with women, please check out my other articles regarding the "do's" for success with women. But, in general, avoiding countless amounts of dating advice, learning to approach women in a natural manner, and limiting the advice you seek from other women, you are well on your way to being confident with women.


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