What is the fastest way how to get your love back? How about call him or her up right now, and try to get them to go out with you? How about texting him or her for the next five days in a row, whether they reply or not? How about practically camping out on their doorstep, pleading pitifully for them to come back?

What, you tried those? Didn't work? It just drove him or her away further? Yep, those are the absolute wrong ways to get your ex back, and it's also the best way to make yourself feel twenty times worse than you did before. A lot of people, your friends, might just tell you to move on, to pick up the pieces and try to find someone else.

However, you can't shake the feeling that he or she that just left you (or maybe you did something stupid to make them break up with you), that they are the one, the one you were supposed to fall deeply in love with, maybe marry and live happily ever after. Well, I can't guarantee that, but I do want to tell you a secret: there are some very fast ways to get a lover back, and you can indeed get them back if you know the right things to do, but I you might as well accept the fact that you won't be going out with them this Friday night, no matter how hard you try.

This is the first step in the fastest way how to get your lover back, accept the reality of the situation, don't try to make it what it once was. Things always change, but mostly they change for the better, and you can use that truth to your advantage. Just leave him or her alone for a while now, up to a couple weeks or maybe more.

You can do this because you've already invested a lot of time with your ex, you've banked a lot of love and friendship with him or her already, it won't go away. In fact, you need to let it grow like a seed within him or her for a while. Then at a time in the future, not too far distant, you can meet up with him or her again and those feelings about you will pop up again. You'll see a smile on their face when they see you again.

The second thing you need to do is a little course of self-improvement. Change your hair style, buy some new clothes, and maybe take off a few pounds. You want your old girlfriend/boyfriend to see that you have enough self-interest to improve yourself and, most importantly, that you like yourself. We all are universally attracted to people who are self-confident and like themselves, because we all aspire to be happy and improve ourselves. You may not realize it, but self-confidence has an incredible magnetic power over others; it makes us attractive and it makes people want to be with us.

So when that day comes when you meet up with your ex; he/she is going to be impacted by their previous feelings for you suddenly arising, and your now added self-confidence and attractiveness. Now don't get out the ring and start to propose right then and there; take care, be a little hard to get, because he or she may start chasing you now!

Now this is not everything, there are other important points to the fastest way how to get your lover back, but these are the very important first steps you absolutely must take. I highly recommend that you find some good relationship reports, ebooks, or sites to go to for the whole time-tested program. Good luck, you can do it!