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I hope the title grabbed your attention. The fact of the matter is that we focus entirely too much on how we did on the date and hoping that she liked us that we completely forget to observe and take notice of her and her actions. Guys, we put way too much pressure on ourselves whenever getting ready for a date. We act as though the woman is doing us some huge favor, like there is no way we could ever get another date. Obviously the truth of the matter is that there will be plenty more women and plenty of more dates in our future. We just have to be confident and treat the date almost like a job interview, because lets be honest, first dates usually are interviews.

I believe that this fear or belief that the woman is doing us some type of big favor is where a lot of bad relationships really stem from. For example, since we focus far too much on ourselves and not on her we can miss some very easy signs that could us she is just not the one.

A very easy sign to look out for is to observe how she treats the waiter as well as the rest of the staff at the restaurant you take her to. Very simply put, if she is going to be rude to these people who are serving her then she will have absolutely no problem being rude to you, your friends, and your family. In these instances I definitely say run for the hills and never look back. Do yourself a favor and just lose her number.

Another sign, which may be a little trivial to some, is whether or not she is ready on time. Now I know a lot of you are probably saying 'really? Aren't women always late? you can't be serious?' However, yes I am very serious. We're talking about a first date, not a date with your girlfriend that you have been seeing for months or years. On the first date the woman should be just as nervous and eager as you are. She should want to make as good of a first impression as you do. If she doesn't then that's really not the type of woman you want for a long term relationship anyways. So, if she's not ready on time for the first date I say make sure there's not a second.

A third sign, which again might seem a little unconventional, is whether or not she attempts to pay the bill. I know it is customary for the man to pay and I'm not saying split it with her or ask her to help pay. All I'm saying is that when that check gets placed on the table if she doesn't at least reach for her purse, no matter how halfheartedly it may be,then you should probably move on. Of course you are going to pay,and of course she knows that, and of course you know that. But in my experience if she doesn't at least make an effort it could show that she is spoiled, bratty, and a bit of a snob.

You should take these tips and apply them on your next date. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe this advice is all wrong and if that is the case then please continue on with what you've been doing. But ask yourself, what if I'm right?


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