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If you're looking for advice on men, the worst people to go to are your girlfriends! Women have this need to analyze every date with their girlfriends and this is the absolute worst idea ever. Having them help you out in your appearance is fine but when it comes to understanding what men are thinking, your girlfriends are clueless.
Listen to your own intuition instead of relying on theirs. Your friends were not on the date with you, YOUR DATE was on the date with you. They don't know every little detail that happened and even if you did provide them the details, they wouldn't have been able to get the vibes and feelings during the interactions on the date.
This is not to say that your friends' advice should be totally disregarded but we have to be realistic. Unless you can secretly record down the entire date and have your friends analyze and decipher exactly what he means when he makes a certain expression, you're better off listening to the womanly intuition that you were born with.
Ever watched the movie 'He's just not that into you'? Sure it was just a movie, but it made a very important point. Listening to your girlfriends about guys is highly likely to ruin your chances with just about every man you'll meet! The best place to get advice about men is from men. We know ourselves best! And we know how our fellow man thinks. And the best place to get advice about your date? Your date himself! He is the one sitting opposite you and he is the only one who knows what he is thinking about at any time!
Remember, though it may seem too direct or early, men do like people to be frank and to the point. Ask him what his actions and words mean in a direct yet respectful manner and he will respect you for not beating around the bush and jumping to conclusions. Jumping to conclusions is just not the way to go. I mean, how would you feel if a man interpreted your low cut dress and tight fitting clothes as being skanky when all you wanted to do was to feel good about yourself?
Talking to your girlfriends may sometimes speed up the process of misunderstanding your date! Sometimes, when you're all caught up discussing something and the general agreement is of a certain nature, you'll find yourself agreeing with their analysis instead of objectively looking at things.
Here's what you can do. Instead of immediately calling your girlfriends up and asking them to meet up and go all FBI on the date, give it a couple of days and spend some time talking to your guy on the phone or over texting. You'll be able to get a clearer picture of how he is like and why he did certain things or said certain things.
Now when you meet your girlfriends, you'll be armed with more information and you can better explain things instead of having them jump you to conclusions about things. When they ask you about the date, tell them it went fine and when you'll be planning a next date. A simple way to get them off your back.
If you must have a second opinion or have someone else give you advice because you are really floundering, ask a guy friend. He'll be much more help at understanding guys because he is a guy! Ask someone who you know has been on dates and is more open to sharing and listening to your situation because asking a friend who spends all day hanging out at the comic book store and playing video games at home is not the one you want to go to for advice on guys!
Trust your instincts and spend some time thinking over things before making any decisions. It helps to know yourself well if you're planning on taking things beyond the first date.
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