You notice her right away. Just your type. She is gorgeous and to your surprise she looks right at you and smiles.

You have the green light (you think) and make your approach. You say hello and begin to introduce yourself.

At least, you thought you said hello. Judging by the look on her face, you must have said that you enjoy picking your nose, because that is the only way to account for the extreme look of disgust on her face. She immediately grabs her friend and puts her between the two of you.

Oh yes, getting turned down is downright humiliating. The walk back to your seat is long and slow. You imagine everyone in the place now pities you and the girl you just failed with is going to tell everyone in town that you are super tool to be avoided at all costs (of course, you are just putting a head trip on yourself as no one bothered to notice and none of these doomsday scenarios are actually real).

All I can say to the above scenario is that if you're in the game of dating women, you sometimes can't avoid it. If you have managed to avoid it, you're either lying to yourself or you're not really trying.

As much as it smarts to get straight rejected in that manner, you have to remember never to take women personally and that even the biggest stud runs into women that just aren't interested.

One of my favorite sports is baseball and even the best hitters look like fools on any given night. A hall of fame career is what, being successful on 30 percent of your swings? I've seen some of the most respected players in the game have horrible nights where they strike out, hit into double plays and pop up at critical moments of the game. They sometimes even get booed.

Of course, a lot of time you see those hitters have big nights where everyone in the stadium is up on their feet cheering their multiple hit game that is carrying the team.

The point is, while getting turned down is a painful experience in the game of approaching and dating women, it shows you're in the game.

Would a hall of fame baseball player be in the hall of fame if he didn't ever play the game? Sound stupid? I know I sound like Captain Obvious there, but amazingly guys will watch sports and never make the connection that never having the guts to approach women because they're afraid of getting turned down is like a baseball player that refuses to bat because he's afraid he might strike out.

Sure, you might strike out, but if you're up at the plate, you can hit a home run too!

Getting turned down is a real possibility when you're trying to date women, but you can't let it affect your overall game. Of course, if you're getting turned down every single time, you might have to re-tool your approach or places you're going. Even the best baseball players have coaches and on our dating women radio show, we coach guys to have greater success with dating women and relationships. Like a batting coach, we help you with your swing.

However, there is no coach in the world that can prevent you from striking out because not every woman in the world will like you and sometimes you don't find out unless you try (unfortunately).

Remember guys, getting turned down is all right as long as it doesn't cause you to quit the game!