I am dismayed.

I see so much bad advice that fools guys into wasting their money and time in the fruitless pursuit of getting their ex girlfriend back.

It's a huge industry though. I did a keyword search for getting your ex-girlfriend back and over 12,000,000 Web sites have it in there, plus there are a ton of information products you can download for it and you might be seriously considering buying one of them.

Before you pull your wallet out and plunk your credit card number into the site for the e-book, read what I have to say.

There are two reasons why you have an ex-girlfriend now and two reasons only.

Reason 1: You didn't select the right girl to begin with. You never really had her heart from the jump because she just didn't have high interest level in you and never would. The minute a guy came along that she was really interested in, you were out.

Reason 2: You had the right girl but via your actions (taking her for granted, being jealous, changing from the guy she fell in love with to begin with, etc.) you lowered her interest level to the point where she fell out of love.

In both cases, you cannot get her back. Reason 1 should be obvious to you. As far as reason 2, you might falsely think that she loved you once, so she can love you again.

Wrong!

Women have memories that would put the average elephant to shame and she knew what she was doing when she broke up with you.

Let me repeat that, she knew what she was doing when she broke up with you.

In the majority of situations, women don't impulsively leave. Their interest level drops in stages until they just don't love you anymore and they will never love you to that level again. What broke you two up is etched into her long memory forever. The high interest level she once had for you will never ever be there again. It just doesn't happen.

On the dating women radio show I co-host, we have guys that call in all the time wondering how to get their ex girlfriend back and we throw cold water on them like I'm throwing cold water on you. The only reason she might come back is because she got whipped in the dating scene and now wants to come back to the guy that she now thinks of as old reliable because he's been trying like mad to get the relationship re-established.

She might come back physically but as far as ever being in love again, you can forget it. Be ready for a miserable ride with her because she will be stuck with a guy that she is no longer interested in (you) and mad she couldn't get the one that she really wanted (hence, she's back with you).

Some guys can put up with that because they have to be with her so bad and they suffer a thousand slights and put downs because they can't be alone. It's truly sad.

We had another caller on our dating women radio show that talked about his girlfriend who left him and was wrapped around another guy six days later. After that guy left her, she came back to our hero. Guess what happened after she came back to the original guy? She broke up with him again, and was soon wrapped around another guy.

Guys, before you spend your valuable money or time on an internet "guru" telling you that you can have her back, please keep this phrase in mind before buying the program:

You get one chance, per woman, per lifetime.