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Giving Space In A Relationship
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I admit it, I’m a sucker for the real bass driven 70’s funk and R&B. Some of the best love songs ever came out of that era (just my opinion, feel free to disagree). The crux of this article is not to debate the merits of our favorite music. The crux is to talk about giving space in a relationship.

One of my all time favorite songs of that era is L.T.D., "Love Ballad," and a portion of the lyrics are: Lovers come And then lovers go That's what folks say Don't they know They're not there when you love me, hold me and say you care And what we have is much more than they can see

Problem is folks listen to songs like that and the image they get is of two lovers walking together eternally. Music videos showing snippets of lovers going down the beach, at a candlelit dinner, curled up near a fireplace, as the smooth song plays in the background, it fuels the image of forever togetherness.

In the real world, it’s not all candlelit dinners and feeding your lover grapes.

There are jobs to do, bills to pay, family to attend to and the multitude of other things that makes up our crazy adult life in the 2000’s.

It’s very nice to be in a loving relationship and have a candlelit dinner or two to look forward to, but if it’s all about romance at the exclusion of everything else, that is neither realistic or practical. I love L.T.D., but can’t listen to the song 100x in a row. I love chocolate ice cream but can’t eat a gallon a day. I may love my girlfriend, fiance’ or wife but I don’t want to be attached at the hip to them.

First of all, it’s not realistic. If I always have someone with me, I can’t concentrate on things I need to do nor will I have anything else in my life. Exercise? Time with friends? Time with family? All of those things are much reduced when you are with your significant other too much. Am I saying don’t spend time with them? Of course not!

A loving relationship should have a prominent place in your life and you should treat your lover with respect, affection and romance, when you’re with them. But, don’t be with them 24/7.

Also, what do you two talk about to keep the relationship interesting if you two are the only ones you see? It reminds me of an old comic strip I read like 20 years ago and two of the characters are stranded on a raft in the ocean.

One character tells the other about a space alien he read about in one of those national magazines and the other screams, “I know, you've told me that 9x!.”

Same deal when you’re with your significant other too much. You are straining to make conversation because you’re not feeding your brain with anything else but what you tell each other. The way people live today, a married couple can be together 40 or 50 years. Think things might get a little stale if you’re always in each other’s faces 24/7?

We tell guys all the time in the dating women radio show that I co-host that they rush into rejection and a major component of rushing into rejection is wanting too much time with her.

Remember, if you think giving space in a relationship isn’t important, you’re only fooling yourself.


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