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Help Me I Don\'t Understand Men

Well ladies, how many times have you uttered these simple words, ‘help I don’t understand men!’ It could have even followed a reaction to any one of the many behaviors, which have led women around the globe to believe that men really are from Mars. Hence the dilemma we don’t speak Martian.

For a while now I have looked for a way to translate Martian and get some insight to the behaviors of men, in particular men in relationships. After all it is an age-old tale, boy meet girl everything going well and then boy disappears.

It might not just be that he disappeared perhaps he didn’t call you back when he said he was going to. Maybe it was just that he decided to break it off but really couldn’t explain why.

You may have even heard one of the many cliques ‘it’s not you, you are great, it’s me’ or ‘I am not relationship material’ or ‘I love you but I am just not ready to get married’. Any of these circumstances led women around the world to throw up their hands and say ‘help I don’t understand men’.

You may have even called some girlfriends up for a conference, over brunch or a wine to talk about and try to make sense of what had happened. These get chat generally consist of going over every conversation of the past day, week or year trying to just make sense of it.

Quite often I would shudder as I hear those inevitable words after going over every conversation ‘what is wrong with me?’ You see we are generally quite quick to blame ourselves, believing that we must have done something wrong.

Ladies, it is not your fault! ‘Help I don’t understand men’ is probably a better way to sort through the dilemma. It would really help if we could understand and read the signs he likes me a bit more.

It would also help if you could tell him what you need without telling him that he is wrong. This helps to smooth out the relationship so that you both get what you need from it .

I have finally come across some relationship advice about men, which is starting to make a lot of sense to me. Finally an insight into these types of behaviors, which really helped me to understand men better, and challenged my thinking about men in relationships.

Are ready to have your perspective of men in relationships challenged and go from ‘help I don’t understand men’, to now I get them. You could keep going it alone but you may find it easier to just some relationship advice about men that actually works.


Street Talk

Gayle there are many reasons why a man wouldn't visit again, if he visit your home and the scene displeases him, or the night he met you, he thought he had a princess, but with the make up off, he had second though. Or you might has said something in his presence.

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  about 8 years ago

You are so right Alfred, I have heard the strangest reasons men leave a relationship, right down to 'I didn't like the way she pushed peas on her fork'. The is no rhyme or reason but just something that didn't sit right, and he found a flaw to end it. If its not right move on. Gayle

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  about 8 years ago

This article is nice but it makes me sad. Women should never blame themselves for a relationship ending (or not getting off the ground in the first place). Men have difficulty speaking forthrightly about their feelings--they almost never have the stones to face a woman and tell them truthfully how they feel--or why they are moving on. And in many cases, the answer is "I'm selfish."--so they have reason to avoid an honest 'it's over' conversation. When I was very young and thoughtless, I told my girlfriend that I'd decided to live with someone else. She punched me right in the breadbasket--she cried, too, but I got the more direct message, and it helped me learn to be aware of others' feelings. Women can be too understanding, too willing to search for faults in themselves--this is counter-productive--men's motivations are based on ego and pride of 'ownership' and showing off to the other guys. If women can be that cold-hearted about their objectives, then, MAYBE, they have reason to blame themselves. Otherwise, the true answer to 'why he left me' is that the universe has someone better in mind for you.

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  about 8 years ago

Thanks for your comments. I think sometimes it is the lack of info from our guys folks that leads women to blame themselves for anything that goes wrong in a relationship. Not that that is right or wrong but just that way it is. I think that guys are breed through their life to hide their feeling and not show them, so it's hard for them too. Hopefully we can strike a balance where honesty, not matter how painful, comes through. Gayle

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  about 8 years ago

This article reminds me of the time I was working my way around the salad bar at my favorite restaurant and a lady told me I didn't make a salad like a man! Just how does a man make a salad? Any way I think it is good that we can break stereotypes sometimes. Good article, I wish you well in all you do. @Joan S No not mad at you at all.

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  about 8 years ago

Thanks for visiting, I wish you well as well. Gayle

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  about 8 years ago
Joan S  

I don't understand them either, but I like them. To understand them, you just have to cut out 60% of the detailed material in your brain, and you'll get the abbreviated version from them. Oh now I've done it. They're going to get mad at me for that one.

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  about 8 years ago

I think you may get in trouble for that one. Yes I like them too, and love it when you truly understand each other, it keeps life interesting.

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  about 8 years ago

As an older man, half the time I just say that I don't understand women, and I thank God for that, would we not all be boring if we understood each other in such a way that after marriage it was unnecessary to talk. I love the idea that after 38 years my wife is still finding out things about me and me about her.. it helps to not fully understand a partner in my opinion in any case...

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  about 8 years ago

38 years of marriage is a wonderful achievement and I love that you are still learning about each other and still have so much to talk about., congrats.

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  about 8 years ago
JPSaggs  

As a man I enjoyed this article. I agree with most parts though I must be honest my gorgeous wife to be and many of my friends have made comments as to how I am not the "typical" sort of guy....All in my favour I suppose :) Good luck and once again quality written article with nice subtle links at the end... All the best Jason.

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  about 8 years ago

Thanks Jason I think it is wonderful that you are original it is always good to be "one of a kind". Thanks for dropping by.

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  about 8 years ago

Good for you! Nicely written article regarding relationship advice about men. Hope you get to say find me a soul mate happened for you with all you learned. Keep sharing!

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  about 8 years ago

Thanks Cynthia I really appreciate you visiting and your comments.

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  about 8 years ago
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