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“he’s Just Not That Into You” Movie Review

I finally got to watch the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You” the other night and thought that I would like to write about the lessons I found in it. I also thought it would be a good recap for girls to understand guys better in the basic sense. So I am going to point out some main aspects I found about dating in this movie that some women may have forgotten.

1. When a guy makes no effort towards you, he’s just not that interested.

I have to admit that myself included, have obsessed over certain men whom I thought were really interested in me. But why do we as women still obsess over a man after just one date? His actions will always speak louder than his words.

So, I kept thinking: What causes women to still chase a guy when he hasn’t made any more effort to see you? Is it that feeling that at least some guy wants to be with you? Or a feeling of worthiness? Or does it mean that if a guy does show interest at all, that you will feel more attractive?

Those questions that I was thinking, all seemed to have the same answer, which to me is = lack of confidence

Majority of women will who do obsess over a guy seem to be doing it because they find him to be so attractive and good-looking. While it’s important to be attracted to a partner, it has never been the reason that couples stay together long-term. Lust to me, has always been heartbreak. There needs to be more of a connection.

2. Women often think certain men are right for them when they are clearly not.

When men don’t respond in the way the woman would like, they then think that there is something wrong with them.

This includes rushing to get married because peers, friends, family, society or magazines expect you to. When it comes to dating, you should trust and follow your own heart and instincts more. This also includes dating married men because you think he is the love of your life? Even if they are separated, wouldn’t it be better to know that he is definitely single and available again before you enter into a relationship? Not thinking about any other woman? To know that he is now ready to move on? I think so.

3. When a woman is alone, she's more vulnerable to feel certain expectations of others to be in a relationship.

This means that the pressure of feeling normal when you are in a relationship can cause too much pressure to chase the wrong guys. Especially when women are advised not to do the chasing and have forgotten that majority of men prefer to pursue you as the prize.

I believe it is a matter of you finding yourself first and understanding what you like and don’t like in a relationship. Then you will know what to look for, without settling. This will put you in the best frame of mind to attract an amazing guy who will have more in common with you. Movies are great entertainment, but when you really look into the meaning of the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You”, it just wants women to stop obsessing over men who are obviously not interested in them for a long term relationship. They forget that there are other guys out there who will be interested and will be better matched to you too.

4. Not every good looking guy you chat to is going to be compatible with you.

I'm sure you don’t really want to settle for Mr good looking and it's clear that he's just not that into you . It shouldn't be painful to be in a relationship, you should both be clearly happy. If there are no clear action signs that he wants to get to know you better, then you are forcing yourself to have heartache because you have such different values. If he's not valuing you now, he won't be in the future.

5. Never give a guy an ultimatum.

Quietly and calmly express to him your opinion and why you see it that way. This can include always being honest no matter what the consequences.

Because if you are always honest, then you are always being yourself. Wouldn’t it be easier to be yourself for the rest of your life, then to pretend to be someone else just to keep the other person happy? You don’t have to work that hard in a relationship; it should be easy majority of the time.

So if you still have a guy on your mind and are still wondering why “He’s just not that into you?” It may be because he’s not the right guy for you long term? If he hasn’t called after one or two dates, maybe he just isn’t interested. Once it crosses your mind that he isn’t interested, you should be happy. Because you didn’t just waste a part of your life trying to be with someone who wasn’t compatible and who you wouldn’t be happy together with.

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