As I was getting ready to go out on the town, I had but one goal in mind for the evening and that was how do I get a guy to notice me?
I would take great care to be sure my makeup looked good, my hair looked sexy and that I was wearing just the right outfit. I looked forward to the weekend just to hit the town with my girlfriends in the hopes of attracting the attention of a great guy.
This ritual occurred more years ago than I care to admit, but I remember it like it was yesterday.
As the evening wore on and there were either not a whole lot of great guys around where we were, or they had started their night out much earlier than we did (can someone say tipsy?). As the night went on, the number of prospects grew smaller and smaller.
However, even though I would experience many disappointments, I never gave up hope that one lucky night, I would meet this great guy.
After having some success in a sea of failures, I stopped to think about what was different about the nights I actually did meet a nice guy, had an interesting conversation and a genuine nice time. These guys even ended up being the ones that resulted in one or more actual dates.
The difference, as far as I could tell, was just being myself. It sounds too simple, but that was the common thread in all the nights I successfully met a great guy.
I didn't have to be "on" like I needed to capture the attention of everyone in the room. I didn't need to be loud, obnoxious, drink too much or just do things in general that I might later regret.
When I was just having fun with my girlfriends, wrapped up in the moment of our conversation, or pool game or whatever we were doing, and completely focusing on that moment and not trying to create or force other moments, I found that this simple action of being myself turned out to be the best strategy.
Sometimes, we might feel like nothing has been happening for a while, we’re not meeting anyone and we need to take the bull by the horns, so to speak, and take more serious action.
But from my experience, anytime I forced something to happen, it ended badly. Either the guy wasn't that great or it didn’t result in a good experience.
If you can be patient and not try so hard to force things, you will probably find that you will have much better results in the long run. In most cases, you want to follow the natural course of things, which includes:
- Attracting his attention
- Keeping his interest and attention
- Getting into a serious relationship
- Moving from the serious to committed level
By all means, doll yourself up and look great when you go out. Look your best so you can be confident knowing you look great.
With confidence, a positive attitude and just letting yourself go with the flow of the night, even if it means you don't meet a guy each time, you will end up enjoying yourself more, stressing yourself out less and will soon discover this is the best strategy when it comes to capturing a guy’s attention.
For potential sparks to fly and to kick off what will hopefully be a serious relationship in the future, “How do I get a guy to notice me?” is a great first question. From there, you can go on to understand and learn things like keeping his interest, falling in love and how to make him commit as your relationship goes on.
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