Close your eyes & imagine what it will be like when you are with the one partner who have searched for all your life?
What will you both be doing together?
How will you be communicating together?
How will you be sorting through your differences and conflicts that you will have occasionally?
How will you look at each other?
What feeling will you be feeling when you know they don’t want to be with anyone else ever, just with you?
They will fight for you, support you, encourage you, want to talk to you everyday want to spend time with you every day, enjoy being fully committed to you and telling you that & expressing it. You will be working together as a team.
For me, I didn’t realize I was with the one until a few months into the relationship. But he was so different from any other guy I had ever been with or even spent time with. He was so honest with me from the very beginning. We originally met up as friends who didn’t want anything more from each other because we lived in different states.
We had met online at a dating website, but he was coming up here for a championship in the sport that he did, and I just asked him if he would like me to show him around as he hadn’t been to this area much before.
But after spending an amazing time together the very first day we met, he told me just before I left that he was considering a relationship with me. How honest is that?
He wasn’t sure how it would work, because I had told him that I don’t want a long distant relationship. Understanding why I said that meant that he didn’t want to ask me out because he knew I would say no because it would mean it would have to be a long distance relationship until one of us moved.
I didn’t think anything more of it; because even though I really enjoyed his company and felt that we had a magical afternoon and evening together on that first day we met, because I still didn’t want a long distance relationship.
I didn’t even see him as a potential partner because he lived so far away from me, so when we were together I was more than happy to be myself. I thought being myself might even chase him away, which is what I wanted because I was so strong against long distance relationships.
Even after we had parted, he would still text me like we were best friends. I am quite fussy with my food and drinks I have including having soy milk with my hot drinks. When he was at the airport, he had ordered a soy mocha (my favourite hot drink) just to try it because I’d told him that was my preferred hot drink. He then sent me a picture text of him drinking it and said that it was actually quite nice.
This showed that he was open minded to trying how I do things and could also see the benefits of why I ate healthy most of the time.
The next couple of days after that I received some very long emails from him, explaining what he felt when we were together, through every little aspect and thing we did.
I was shocked that he was being so honest and telling me everything that was on his mind. How I made him feel comfortable from the beginning so he was happy to talk to me about anything. He loved that I was completely being myself and made him feel relaxed to be himself too. Then how the first time we put our arms around each other for a photo (because we were at a restaurant at the top of a building with a beautiful view), that it felt so right having his arm around me that he didn’t want to let me go. He said “That was the first time he started having romantic feelings towards me”.
Then he sent another really long email expressing how he felt when he saw me do this and that during our time together and how he really wanted to kiss me here but didn’t think it was appropriate yet. This went on for 3 emails and about 10 thousand words all up.
He even told me that he followed this rule: Never kiss a girl unless you are prepared to hold her heart in your hands. He had learned it from somewhere, and was why he didn’t kiss me because he wasn’t sure we could have a successful long term relationship together yet and he didn’t want to hurt my feelings in case we couldn’t be together.
To be continued...
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