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How To Handle Being Dumped – You Decide
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How To Handle Being Dumped – You Decide

Breakups are always difficult, but you are the one who decides how to handle being dumped. When you are the one being dumped it can feel like your whole world has just fallen apart.

To a point that’s true, but it doesn’t have to last long. You can be the kind of person that screams and cries, and is totally miserable. You might stay up late plotting the demise of your ex.

You might even want to get revenge on that dirty, no good scoundrel. When you’re hurting it’s easy to go completely off on a tangent. Actually doing these things is probably not the best way to handle life, though.

A better choice is to take a little time to mourn the loss, get over it, and get on with life. Your life is not over because he/she is gone. It’s just different. And different isn’t always bad.

Choosing to move forward means that you need to make a plan, stick to the plan, and learn to be single again. However you choose to handle it I would like to add a word of caution here. Do not, no matter how tempting it is, get into another relationship immediately.

Why not? Well, until you have gotten over your ex it’s not fair to the new person. You are vulnerable right now, hurting, feeling bad about yourself. It would be easy to think a new person is the answer.

I suppose sometimes it might be, but 99% of the time, someone is eventually going to be hurt. Once you are stronger, you will most likely want something more with your life. Do you really want to make someone feel the way you do now? I didn’t think so.

Take a day or two to scream, cry, throw things, or whatever makes you feel better. Not many people deserve more time than that. And when your ‘angry’ time is up, it’s time to start moving forward.

Now it’s time to start cleaning up the ‘stuff’ you have sitting around that is going to be a constant reminder of the ex. Pack away all those photos, the jewelry, whatever it is that is going to be a thorn in your side and dredge up the past.

Once that task is done, you are ready to start living life as a single person again. Call a friend and go for coffee or lunch, or whatever you like to do. Can you say ‘retail therapy”? Do what you know will make you feel a little perkier.

This step may be the hardest one, but it is totally necessary for you to heal faster. Do not contact your ex at all. Don’t call, don’t text, don’t pop them a quick message on Facebook, well, you get the idea. Strictly no contact. All contact with the ex is going to do is keep you tethered to the past.

Keep yourself busy doing things you want to do so you don’t sit home thinking about the past. There are so many positive things to do:

  • Take a college class or two
  • Check some books out of the library and have a read-a-thon
  • Do volunteer work
  • Spend more time with family and friends
  • Go to the gym

Concentrate on having some ‘me time’ for a while and you will be feeling happier before you know it. You will realize you’ve moved on and that the future can be whatever you want to make it. That's how to handle being dumped the right way.


Street Talk

Break ups are difficult you have offered some great advice here. Get some exercise is great advice it is good on so many levels

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  about 8 years ago

It really is Gayle. Makes you feel better to get a good workout!

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  about 8 years ago

Very good advice although no matter what you do if time doesn't do its work...difficult subject. Nice article Lacey

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  about 8 years ago

Thank you Maria.

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  about 8 years ago

Go shopping is that not what women find therapeutic???

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  about 8 years ago

It depends. Mostly I would think yes, but when I am really upset and hurt a few rounds with the heavy bag works nicely!

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  about 8 years ago

Before the break up maybe a few rounds with the ex instead of the heavy bag could work well as a get over it remedy

  
  about 8 years ago
Joan S  

That's a rough one. Rejection feels awful. I like retail therapy and plunging into work.

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  about 8 years ago

Yep, I stay busy when I am unhappy and before you know it, it passes.

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  about 8 years ago

Lots of Good Idea's Lacey

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  about 8 years ago

Thanks Sharon!

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  about 8 years ago
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