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How To Improve Confidence With Women - 3 Simple Rules
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If you're wondering how to improve confidence with women because you fear approaching them, there's a simple three-step method that can help you out.  Try implementing these three changes into your life, and you'll automatically get a boost of confidence every time you talk to someone.

1. Assess your life

You need to first become the best, happiest man you can be.  To do this, make a list of areas in your life where you feel unfulfilled.  (Career, love life, and health/body might be some starting places.)

Then, ask how you can improve each of these areas.  Make a list of small, achievable goals that allow you to create your ideal life.  If this means getting a new job, start working towards that (don't quit and just hope for the best, but make a slow transition).  If it means meeting more women, make a list of places to go that you can meet women.

2. Let go of the fear of rejection

When you approach a woman, you are going to get rejected sometimes.  This is a fact of life.  Rejection happens, and it hurts.

But you may also be successful, so you have to make the choice: approach a woman and face the chance of rejection, or never approach, and spend the rest of your life alone, conquered by your fear?

If you choose to face rejection, understand that the more you approach women, the easier it will get over time.  Your confidence will naturally improve as you talk to different people.  You should make it a habit to chat up as many folks as you can, and not just women.

This will improve your social skills, and help you overcome the fear or rejection.

3. Detach yourself from outcomes

Here's a proven fact: the less you care about the result of something, the easier it will be to achieve.

The less you care about a woman's reaction to you when you approach her, the more likely she will be to take an interest in you.

This is a simple human psychological quirk; the less you seem to care, the more dominant you are perceived in society.  The dominant individual is the one who draws and attracts people.  (Much like alpha wolves in the wild.)

So, stop caring what women think when you approach them.  Have your only goal be to start a conversation with her.  It doesn't matter what she thinks of you, or whether or not she accepts your company.

The wrap-up

Implementing these three things into your life will teach you the simplest, easiest ways of how to improve confidence with women.  In reality, it is a simple matter of being the man you want to be, and taking charge of your life.  When you do that, the rest will follow. 


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