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How To Let Go Of Past Relationships
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How To Let Go Of Past Relationships

Learning how to let go of past relationships was a real big challenge for me. I don't even know why I would on hold for so long to an ex boyfriend. Continually thinking about them and imagine them coming back to me and confessing their undying love for me. I never thought at the time that we weren't right for each other, I would just enjoy the feelings of having attention from a guy I thought was attractive. So here, I'm going to share with you what I went through in order to move on from my past relationships.

One of the first and most important steps I learned was understanding that they weren't right for me in the first place. After I had written my list of what I wanted in a guy, I noticed that all of my ex boyfriends hardly had any of the qualities that I wanted. After I understood this, I knew we wouldn't have been happy together anyway. He wouldn't of been able to fulfil my needs of love and I wouldn't of been able to fulfil his needs of love and still be happy within myself. It would of been too frustrating to stay together.

The next step I found which I learned from how to let go of past relationships, was to understand our purpose of being together in the first place. Then to thank them individually for the lessons they were here to teach me. We still learn a lot from ex partners about what we do like and dislike in relationships, to help us choose our ideal partner. This is where I noticed patterns in my past relationships where I was attracting the same type of men which I didn't want to be with. They were all workaholics who were unemotionally available so they wouldn't commit to a long term relationship with me.

With this process, I learned a lot about myself as well. I had to forgive myself for getting upset with a guy if they didn't do what I would expect them to do. I had to think about why I would get upset, why I wanted them to do or say a particular thing. It made me realize that most of the time I wanted to feel important by them.

Why couldn't I just be important to me?

I realized I wasn't valuing myself and allowing myself to feel valued and important. What a great lesson for me that was from understanding how to let go of past relationships that I knew weren't good for me.

Another step I found in the process of how to let go of past relationships, was to forgive them and to forgive yourself. In this step I realized that my ex boyfriends were only doing what made them happy, even though it hurt me. They were only following what felt good to them at the time through their own free will.

This made it easier for me to forgive them and to forgive myself for not communicating well to them what I wanted. If I had of communicated to them my wants and needs in the relationship and they couldn't fulfil what I wanted, move on to someone who does. There will always be a ideal match for you who will be a partner who enjoys fulfilling your wants and needs in a relationship.

I'm not sure if it's the same with your past relationships, but when you learn more about what upset you when you were in those past relationships, you learn so much more about yourself. I found that I ended up teaching myself how to let go of those relationships and never settle for what I didn't want ever again. After going through the steps I mentioned above, I believe, made it so much easier for me to move on and find that amazing relationship where we work together so much more easily. So hopefully this can help you to understand yourself more and to move on from your own past relationships to a more fulfilling one too.


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