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Im Dating My Ex Again – How Do We Avoid Making The Same Mistakes?
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You're dating your ex again. You can't believe it. You're not sure if you should be strung up, shot, or put in a straight-jacket. The fact is that you love her with all your heart. So, how do you avoid making the same mistakes this time so yur second chance at dating has a fighting chance of working out this time? You don't want to make the same mistakes again and part of you is afraid your heart just won't be able to handle breaking like that again. What can you do to make a better outcome more likely this time around?

There is a cloud of mystery that surrounds relationships. If you ask one thousand people to describe the perfect relationship you'd have one thousand different descriptions of a relationship. The really surprising thing is that many couples never sit down and discuss what their ideal relationships will entail. That means that each have expectations that may be miles apart from the reality of their situations. It's safe to bet that the same thing has happened to you in relationships past.

If you want to turn the tide in your favor for this second chance at love with your ex, then you're going to have to have a nice long discussion about what you can give and what you'd like to receive in your relationship. You may not get or give all that you want but if you get most of what you need then it's a pretty good relationship by modern standards. Here's a little bit more advice to help you get your relationship back on track and on the right foot this time around.

Ask for What You Need

You need to make a commitment from the very beginning, if you want to really make things work and save your relationship this time around, to ask for what you need from your girlfriend if you're not getting it. This way, you're not holding her accountable for not giving you something she didn't even know you needed. More importantly, you're increasing the odds that you will get what you need from her.

If you have asked for whatever it is you need from her and she's still not giving it to you, try asking in a different way and/or letting her know just how important it is for you. If you still aren't getting what you need, perhaps it's time for you to re-examine the state of affairs and decide that she's not as committed as she's letting on.

Give as Good as You'd Like to Get

While this could apply to sex, it should also apply to all other aspects of your relationship. If you give to your girlfriend as much as you'd like to get back from her, then your second chance is off to one heckuva start.

Something really beautiful happens at times like this too. You start to notice that you're just as happy giving her great things and making her smile as you are when she does things that make you smile. It's a win-win situation for both of you and your relationship.

When you're dating your ex again you shouldn't spend all of your time worrying about the small stuff or waiting for the other "shoe to drop." You need to devote all your time and energy into doing positive things that are going to bring laughter, love, and countless blessings to your relationship. This is the best way by far to get your ex back despite any odds that may be stacked against you.

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