You've just started dating your ex wife again and need help. You don't need help because You're dating her again. You need help because you don't want to mess it up again. Is there anything you can do differently this time around so you don't end up right back in divorce court? You love her and you know that she loves you. When you're together though, there are fireworks all over the place. Some of them are spectacular to watch but others are definitely not of the entertaining variety. How can you work together to make your marriage work this time when it's had so many problems in the past?

You're in a bit of a predicament when you face dating your ex wife and facing down the foe that felled your marriage the first time around. The most important thing for the two of you to do right now, in the beginning phases or your new dating relationship, is figure out what exactly when wrong with your marriage. You can't solve the problem or make your relationship better this time around if you don't know what the problem is. While identifying and solving the primary problem is important there are other things you need to do in order to shore up your relationship this time around so that you won't be as vulnerable to breaking up all over again.

The second most important thing if you want to make things last this time around is that you both learn how to forgive one another and yourselves for the mistakes and missteps of the past. For all intents and purposes you need to view this is a completely new and separate relationship. You can't look at it just as if you are finding out how to get your ex back. You need to wipe the slate clean and start over from the beginning. Don't hold the sins of the past against her and don't let her get away with doing that to you either.

Finally, you need to take one day at a time. It's important to make plans for the future and look forward but you do need to take each day as it comes and learn to enjoy living in the moment too. This will prevent you from putting all the important things off until tomorrow and from letting the past overshadow the important things that are happening in the here and now.

The best advice you can get for dating your ex wife is to do your best to have a good time and make sure she's having one too. The more you can laugh together and the more fun you have together the stronger your relationship will be.