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Is He Interested In Me Or Just Being Nice?
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Is He Interested In Me Or Just Being Nice?

How can you tell if he is totally into you or if he just wants a fling? Women wonder that all the time. Sometimes it’s hard to tell if he’s just flirting or if he would maybe like to stick around for a while.

It doesn’t matter how cute he is, if he’s just looking for a good time, you might want to put the brakes on, fast! Here are a few ways you can tell if he’s really into you or if he’s a player:

When You Are Speaking – He Listens

If he’s planning to stick around for a while, he will be interested in your opinions. You will know he could be a winner if he looks into your eyes while you speak and asks questions about what you are saying.

How will you know if he’s not paying attention? If he cuts you off, starts talking to someone else, or if his eyes are roaming all over the room, his listening skills definitely suck and he’s not into you.

He Remembers What You Like And What You Don’t Like

If the two of you are choosing a movie, he will suggest the one that has your favorite actor in it. He knows your favorite actor because you told him when you first met.

If he ever has to order food for you he will remember not to get onions because you mentioned once that you hate onions.

It might seem silly, but little things really do mean a lot. A guy who wants to know you better will care about the little things.

Someone who is just after sex won’t have a clue about who you really are and he won’t care who you are.

He Takes You On Real Dates

A guy with good intentions will take you on an actual date. I know the idea of dinner at a nice restaurant or going to a movie may seem outdated, but it is a good guage of his interest level.

If he tries to get you in bed right away and always suggests you meet at your place or his he has no romantic interest in you, you can count on that.

He Talks About You To His Friends And Family

If he is infatuated with you, he won’t be able to keep his mouth shut to the people he’s closest to. When you meet them, they will often say they’ve ‘heard so much about you’.

On the other hand, if he’s not planning on sticking around long, you won’t be meeting his friends and they definitely won’t be hearing about you.

He Cares If Those Closest To You Like Him Or Not

It’s definitely a sign that he is interested in you if he wants your inner circle to think well of him. If he has romantic intentions he will definitely want your best friend to like him.

A guy who doesn’t plan to be around won’t show any interest in meeting your friends or your family. And might refuse if you ask him.

He’s Willing To Adjust His Schedule Sometimes

Work schedules can often make things a little crazy. If he is willing to give a little if it means he can spend more time with you, that’s a good sign.

We always find a way to do what is important to us, so if he’s making excuses as to why he can’t see you, that will let you know how much of a priority you are.

These little tips should help you weed out the ‘tire kickers’ from the potential princes. Don’t ever settle for someone who won’t make you a priority in their life. You deserve the best.


Street Talk

melissa3  

You just described my husband when we were first dating. He did all this and then some and that's how I knew he was a keeper. I love your article because it brings back the memories.

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  about 2 years ago

Very good, Lacey

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  about 2 years ago

Thank you very much Sharon!

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  about 2 years ago
Joan S  

Wow, good tell tale signs. Takes patience, doesn't it Lacey?

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  about 2 years ago

Indeed it does. I think he will be worth the wait though!

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  about 2 years ago

You hit the nail on the head with knowing this stuff

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  about 2 years ago

Years of trial and error...lots of trials and errors! Thanks for reading!

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  about 2 years ago

Nice article!

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  about 2 years ago

thanks Cynthia! appreciate the feedback!

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  about 2 years ago
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