The only man to ever really break my heart is my opposite in so many ways that it was kind of funny. Had we stayed together our differences would have eventually led to mind melting battles of wills, possible hurt feelings and worst of all, a complete embracing of the very sort of lifestyle that I detest. His bad habits were already starting to wear on me when we broke up and from my vantage point now, I can say, not a moment too soon.

There were many things about us that did not work, but we overlooked or maybe we ignored them. Either way, we made those things work by not allowing them to become problematic. We had different worldviews, different religious beliefs and a different stance on most of the major issues faced by society. None of those things were really that big of a deal. In fact, we could debate, sometimes quite passionately, without getting angry with one another. We could face down one of these topics from opposite sides and then go out to a nice dinner and never mention that battle again. No one had to win or lose. No names were ever called. It was quite refreshing, actually.

So, what was the breaking point you might wonder. Simple. His lack of motivation, his total acceptance of the status quo when he was obviously miserable was killing me. He knew he was obese, that his health was at risk because of it but did nothing to help himself. Late nights in front of the TV or on the computer (or both) coupled with late night meals that were huge in fat and huge in size was just adding to his bulk. His only exercise came in the form of pushing buttons on a video game. A lovely collection of exercise gear sat unused in his basement.

He tried to instill those habits in me and that is where I drew the line. I was fine with the napping but I was not fine with the overeating, the poor food choices and the total lack of exercise of any kind. He has openly sneered at my workout programs, even saying "I told you so" when I injured my knee recently. Had I stayed with him, I know that I would be in the worst shape of my life, sad and miserable in addition to unhealthy and fat. I got out to save myself.

He broke my heart but now I worry about the state of his.