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Second Chance Dating – How To Have A Great Second First Date
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Dating can be tricky the first time around. When you're trying to date a second time and dealing with all the leftover emotional baggage it becomes even trickier. But that doesn't have to mean you're doomed if you want to date your ex. It doesn't matter why you broke up. There is one secret for success when is comes to second chance dating that you just can't afford to miss. At least you can't afford to miss it if you want to make things turn out better for you both this time around. What is it? It's all about baggage. You have to dump the baggage from the past and make a clean and fresh start this time around. Otherwise you're just spinning your wheels and things are sure to end in heartache all over again.

That doesn't mean you have to forget everything about the past. That could turn out even worse for you. There are many great things about your time together in the past. You don't want to lose out on these. Even some of the bad times you shared together have value and have made you better people and a stronger couple, oddly enough. But, there was a reason things didn't work out the first time around. It usually comes down to forgiveness. Something happened that one or both of you were simply unable to forgive. If you want things to work this time around you're going to have to find a way to find that forgiveness.

Forgiving yourself for the mistakes you made the first time around might be the truly pivotal action that must be taken in order to make your second chance dating experience infinitely more successful. You might discover that it isn't nearly as difficult to save your relationship once you've forgiven yourself for not being perfect and accepted the fact that your ex isn’t perfect either. But there are a few more thing you might want to do to make the most of your second first date if you want to make it a real winner for you both.

No Pressure

You're putting a lot of pressure on yourself to make this date perfect. STOP! There's no need to add extra pressure to an already tense and uncertain situation. In fact, low pressure is the absolute way to go. Find something light and fun for your first date that allows you to both be who you are without the pressure of trying to impress one another. You're already impressed with each other or there wouldn't be a second first date.

Be Positive

This is not the time to pull out your Eeyore attitude. You want to be happy and upbeat not some sad-sack. The most important reason is not that people are generally more attracted to positive and happy people, though that certainly isn't a bad thought. The main reason is that when you think positively, good things tend to happen.

Have Fun

When you're busy having fun, you won't have a lot of time leftover to worry about all the things that can and might go wrong. When you're not worrying and just going with the flow of the moment then you are much more likely to be giving your date the good time he or she is hoping to have as well.

Perfect dates are on the minds of everyone going out on them. Stop stressing over perfection though. It's highly over-rated. Just focus on having a good time and you'll be able to get your ex back for good before you know it.

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