The older you get the worse the dating scene gets. Men your own age want to date women who are younger, the older men who want to date you are closer to your fathers age and most of the younger men (though it is fun to be with a younger man) aren't ready to commit. That puts single women over 40 in the worst possible dating position and can make any woman frustrated to say the least. I have spoken to so many people (men and women) who are at their breaking point when it comes to dating. They feel so alone, they wonder why this is happening to them, and it seems like everyone else around them are falling in love and starting a family that they so desperately want.

When you are in this situation you don't even know where to begin to turn it around and instead you are ready to throw in the towel and quit the dating game altogether. The only thing that will accomplish is making sure you are alone for the rest of your life. I speak to hundreds of women (and men) who feel the same way. I start by telling them that they are not alone and they are not the only ones in that situation. Then I tell them that no matter how frustrated they are they can't let themselves become overwhelmed by the feeling that they will be alone for the rest of their life. This is so important because believe it or not whatever we think so strongly is what our reality will be. If we believe with all our heart that we will be alone forever, then our subconcious mind will guide us into that reality.

In order to begin to turn your  life around, you have to first get your mind focused on what you want, not on what you don't want. Most single women over 40 don't realize that they spend most of their focus on thinking about what they don't want. You have to change the focus of your mind to focus on what you do want. All your decisions and the things you do are lead by your core beliefs. These core beliefs are the things that you think and feel strongly about and they just become a part of who you are, whether it is the things you say to yourself, others or your actions. When you feel that you won't ever meet a guy and get married and you talk about it with everyone that is what you are going to attract into your life, the things you feel and think about the most.

In order to change this and turn your life around to get what you want you must begin to think and feel different about your life. Start by writing down exactly what you want. Once you have written it down place it somewhere that you can access it easily. You should read it out loud at least twice a day, preferably at night before you go to bed and in the morning when you wake up. Your subconcious mind can not distinguish between the truth (reality) and a lie (fantasy). It only knows from what you tell it. You have to also feel that what you want you will have beyond a shadow of a doubt. You must see yourself with the life that you want and feel it.

It can be challenging at first, as you don't really believe it, you have to first tell your subconcious all the things you want and the feelings will catch up. You also have to stop the negative thinking and talking. Say when I get married not if I get married, when I have a family, not if I am going to. Your words are very powerful, your thoughts are things and most times we don't realize the power behind what we say and think.

Just because single women over 40 have not met the man of their dreams yet doesn't mean they are not going to. Train your mind to stay positive no matter what. Have a bad date, say to yourself ok he was not the one and prepare yourself for the next guy, because he might be the one. You stay focused on positive things and train your mind to talk and think in the positive and not the negative and you will see how quickly your life will begin to transform into the reality you want it to be!