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Many women get frustrated and complain that they are only attracting men who are incapable of committing themselves to a long term relationship. Are you one of these women? Do you feel that all the men you have dated pull away at a certain point or are “emotionally unavailable”? Before you start to condemn all men as “commitment phobic” you need to learn how to think like a man and see what about your behavior might be causing them to pull away.
First, understand that men want to be loved for who they are. Even though a man might feel the need to play into social stereotypes of being strong, confident and an excellent provider, he may be a very different person underneath. In order to commit emotionally to you a man needs to know that you truly love that person, too. As one to relationship expert puts it, “he wants you to love Clark Kent as much as you love Superman”.
So even though a man put his best foot forward when first dating you by taking you to nice restaurants and bringing you roses, you need to let him know that while you love and appreciate these gestures, just spending time alone with him is enough. Let him no that it’s him you love, not his money.
Next, take a close look at how you react when your friends get engaged or married. Do you subscribe to Bride Magazine even though you are not engaged? Do you never miss an episode of “The Bachelor” and “The Bachelorette”? Do you constantly talk about weddings and rings? Do you stop and gaze endlessly at bridal shop windows? You see where I’m going here. In order to commit to you a man needs to know that you are in love with him, not just infatuated with the idea of a wedding and getting married.
Finally, understand that men are genetically hardwired to roam and hunt. Evolution ensured the continuation of the species by hard wiring women to "nest", more content to stay at home and raise the children. Although we have moved way past the caveman era in our stereotypes and thinking, there is still a part of a man that will not take kindly to feeling trapped and “domesticated”. When you complain that a man is spending time with his friends or pursuing his hobbies instead of spending time with you a man (whether or not he realizes it or not) starts to feel either resentful or fearful that committing to you will be the end of any type of freedom he has.
This doesn’t mean that a man necessarily wants the freedom to see other women or cheat on you, it just means maybe he still wants to be able to go places he has always dreamed of, jam on his guitar or play video games with his guy friends once in a while. If you come across as needy or demanding of all of your man’s time you are pushing him away. If a man perceives that committing to you will get in the way of any types of dreams that he has, he will not commit to you. Also, most men are very conscious about how their male friends perceive them will not take kindly to being teased that their girlfriend is high maintenance or pulling all the shots in a relationship.
So before you complain that your man is too slow to commit, look at your own behavior and see what you need to change, before you start telling him how he needs to change.
If you are truly interested in learning why men pull away and how to get a man to commit to you without playing games, you should watch this free video that is changing the way women date. You will finally understand how to think like a man and how to have the fulfilling, long lasting relationship that you deserve.
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my name is mccart i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail. com, she is a woman and she is great
my name is mccart i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail. com, she is a woman and she is great
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