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To Let Go Or Not To Let Go: Why Is This A Question?
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To Let Go Or Not to Let Go: Why is This A Question?

If you have occasion to do so, please go and read the profiles of any guy on any dating site and you will see the same sentiment expressed. They do not want anyone who is still "hung up" on an ex. No one who is working through ex related issues at all. That is one of the biggest things that they keep on hammering at, some of them over and over. And, from the frequency that they mention it, it seems that being totally and completely over your ex, everyone of them in fact, is all that really matters.

But, there is always an exception to every rule. A recent article from a young man challenges that ex notion but only from his perspective. The article in question left a lot more questions than answers though. This man, who was making his argument for holding on said that he thought about his exes, not just one but all of them, all of the time. That means, if we are to believe this fellow, that at any given point in the day he is thinking about something about another woman that he had dated in the past. That would mean even time he is spending with you. Theoretically, when you start dating someone, you want to be the one person they are thinking about at least for the majority of the time. Not going to happen with this guy. He is bound and determined to replay every moment, good and bad, of every relationship, near relationship and dalliance he has ever had. He is either a) hopelessly romantic b) pathetically unable to let go and move on or c) ridiculously stunted in his emotional development and obsessive. From the descriptions in his article, we can safely rule out option one.

Here is a question for this guy, one that he does not address at all. How do you feel about women who are equally obsessed with all of their own exes? The general style he writes from is misogynistic and selfish so the answer is probably not going to come as a surprise. He is likely not going to be happy about that at all. After all, he would probably want to be the only person that she is thinking of, especially when she is with him. He is not going to extend that courtesy, of course.

Letting go is important for everyone. You can't start a new relationship with the weights of the old one still hanging around your neck. You can't stare across the table at a new date with the thoughts of an old love dancing through your head. If you want to hang on to your memories, fine then, do so, but don't try starting a new relationship until you are reading to grow up, let go and move on.


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bianca1  

my name is mccart i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail. com, she is a woman and she is great

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  about 9 years ago
bianca1  

my name is mccart i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail. com, she is a woman and she is great

Reply
  about 9 years ago
bianca1  

my name is mccart i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail. com, she is a woman and she is great

Reply
  about 9 years ago
bianca1  

my name is mccart i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail. com, she is a woman and she is great

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  about 9 years ago
PRECIOUS3  

My mouth is full of testimonies, Am miss PRECIOUS E my husband left the home for two years to south Africa for a tourist, where he meant this prostitute and he was bewitch by the girl my husband refuse to come back home again, i cry day and night looking for who to help me, i read a news paper about a powerful spell caster called Dr Abulu and i contacted the spell caster to help me get my lover back to me and he ask me not to worry about it that the gods we fight for me.. he told me by mid-night when all the spirit is at rest he will cast a spell to reunite my lover back to me. and he did in less than 3 days my husband came back to me and started crying that i should for forgive him, i,m so happy for what this spell caster did for me and my husband.. Dr Abulu of abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo com

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  about 9 years ago
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