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What Men Want In A Relationship – Have Expectations Really Changed?
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What Men Want In A Relationship – Have Expectations Really Changed?

Women these days often say that men are confusing and they don’t really know what men want in a relationship. Let’s face it, the roles of women and men have changed a lot in the last few decades, so it’s no wonder people get confused.

I’ve even heard some women say that they are tired of trying to please a man and from now on, the man can please them or hit the road. They are enjoying being liberated enough to choose their own career and life path.

In the meantime, men can be struggling to figure out what their role should be in a relationship and what women expect from them. In the past, it was pretty much a given that the man was the bread winner and the woman would stay at home and raise the children.

Women are calling the shots in a relationship now more than ever, so men may have to work a little harder to find a woman to spend the rest of his life with. That being said, it really hasn’t changed what men are looking for in a relationship all that much.

What Do Men Want From A Relationship

· Men want a woman they can trust – They want someone who will be there for them, a gal they can have faith in. Sad to say, many women aren’t faithful or worthy of trust. Men are becoming increasingly wary of putting their faith and trust out there to be stomped on.

· Men want a women who is loving – Men look for a woman who will love them and who they can love in return. Too often, the women they find are cold. When they find one that does show an ability to love, they will try to hang onto her no matter what.

· Men want a woman is attractive – This doesn’t mean they all want a skinny model type woman. What they do want is someone who cares about how they look, but doesn’t obsess about it. I refuse to believe any man who says looks don’t matter. So you aren’t the prettiest or you may have a few extra pounds? That’s ok, as long as you at least try to look nice.

· Men want a woman who isn’t overly serious – Having a sense of humor and not getting caught up on the little things is very attractive to a man. They want someone who can ‘roll with the changes’ in life and not have a meltdown.

· Men want a woman who has a mind of her own – The ability to debate and hold your own in a conversation is a plus. As long as your passion and temperament doesn’t end up making you all fired up and angry. Men don’t like angry women who shout at them.

· Men want a woman who is feminine, caring, and kind – Acting like one of their drinking buddies is not going to make you more attractive in most men’s eyes. While it’s ok to be able to ‘party it up’ and have fun, most men prefer a woman who acts like a woman and not like one of the guys.

· Men want a woman who can be supportive – Being overly critical about a guy will not make him want to get involved long term. You need to be his support system and build up his self-esteem rather than tearing down everything he does. If you aren’t willing to give him that support and are quick to criticize, you may have a hard time holding on to a man.

To break it all down, what men want in a relationship isn’t all that complicated. The modern man is looking for a reliable, loving, woman who has a brain in her head. He wants someone he can have fun with. Someone he can share life with and settle down with long term. Most men really don’t like being alone.

There aren’t really that many men out there who want to be bachelors forever. They may not necessarily want to get married and have children tomorrow, but realize they will do it in the future. They want a woman who will respect them, even if they aren’t the primary breadwinner in the relationship.


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Joan S  

Good article Lacey. I think it's important for two people to be family to one another. And good friends. Doesn't matter who's bringing home the most dough. That often flip flops anyway. A guy shouldn't even think of marrying a cold person. Who needs that? Know the person before you marry them. Life happens. One hopes they didn't marry Attila the Hun that shows up when the honeymoon is over. There don't seem to be roles anymore, though women are often the nurturers, and men tend to bring home the bacon. Now both do both.

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  about 1 decade ago

Yes, Joan, being good friends first is important. Sometimes that helps cement the relationship when you are going through tough times.

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  about 1 decade ago

Good article with very pertinent points, a well balanced article as well. Just one tip Hit the reply button when replying to comments that way the commenter will get notice that you have replied. It is the button next to the Tweet and Like, then write your reply there... just trying to help... people like to know when you reply....

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  about 1 decade ago

Thanks Rob! I didn't see it there! My bad....

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  about 1 decade ago

Only trying to help from one that's been there...

  
  about 1 decade ago

Jon, I quite agree with you! I am pretty old school myself.

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  about 1 decade ago

Thank you for your kind words Patricia!

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  about 1 decade ago
Jon Moore  

As a 20 year old Christian I can say I agree with what you say men want in a relationship for the majority of guys. However, I disagree a bit with the roles of the relationships. From a Biblical standpoint, the guy should still be the main breadwinner in most situations. But even outside of the Bible, if a girl is trying to take the lead, most guys will let them and just won't grow up. So often I hear girls asking where all the guys have gone. They are all in mom's basement playing xbox. Guys have to grow up and be men, but if girls do all the work the guys aren't going to grow up. Just my 2 cents.

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  about 1 decade ago

Really nice article, Lacey!

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  about 1 decade ago
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