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Who Are You When I’m Not Looking? – Character Does Matter
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Who Are You When I’m Not Looking? – Character Does Matter

Character is who you are when nobody is looking. Are you the same in all situations, or do you put up a façade for the people around you? It’s important for you to know who you are and act accordingly. Honesty, fairness, humility, being willing to take instruction and being willing to help other people are some very important character traits.

Let’s look at character from the perspective of relationships. When you first meet someone and even when you first start dating, there is a kind of ‘honeymoon’ period where both parties want to put their best foot forward, so they are constantly on guard. After a while the new wears off and we start noticing little habits and traits about our boyfriend/girlfriend. And if we have been putting up a front, they will start figuring it out, too. OOPS!

It’s at this point that disagreements and discontent will start cropping up. So here you are in a relationship that you thought was so good, and it all comes crashing down around you. What can you do to avoid it? Before it gets to that point, here’s a simple little tip for you; before you go out with anyone, make it a point to observe their behavior when they don’t know you are watching.

Some people will say that is sneaky and perhaps dishonest. I don’t think so. I would rather know up front who that person is and what they are about before I go wasting months or possibly years of my life with them. Imagine becoming engaged, or possibly even married only to wake up one day and wonder ‘who is this person? And what on earth am I doing with them?’

So, is he a gentleman who holds a door for someone struggling with his or her packages? Or does he just push on past them? Is he quick to lose patience with situations or people? Or maybe he doesn’t mind ‘cutting corners’ to get what he wants, even if it’s illegal or immoral. Things like that can cut through the ‘good guy’ façade pretty fast. Do you really want to hook up with someone who is thoughtless and unkind, or worse yet, has a violent temper?

Not all guys are going to pass this little test, but they aren’t ALL bad, so don’t let it scare you off of dating. Just go into with your eyes open, be observant and get to know who he really is before you let yourself fall in love.


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