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Why Do Men Blow Hot And Cold
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Are you with one of those hot and cold men? You know the one. Yesterday he seemed crazy about you, today you are not so sure. He calls you and all is well, then he may go for periods of time where you wonder if you didn't contact him, would you hear from him at all?

You play things over in your head when he goes cold. Was it something you did, something you said or is he really stressed at work. Why do men blow hot and cold? It's usually one of two things. He is taking you for granted, or he isn't as into you as you are into him.

Niether situation is good. Neither is desirable. A man that takes you for granted or a man that you love more than he loves you. The bottom line though is this. Men blow hot and cold because you allow it. If he has done this to you consistently and it's just how he is or how you think he is, well it's mostly your fault. Let me explain.

If he blows hot and cold and you make excuses or justify it away and welcome him back into the tropics, you just told him with your actions that it's ok with you if he visits the Arctic cirlce, you will wait. He suffered no consequences.

If you are giving him lip service, telling him how it makes you feel when he gets cold, you are wasting your breath. Men don't respond to words, they respond much better to distance. It hasn't worked so far has it?

If your man only occasionally blows hot and cold, that is nothing to be concerned about. He is just a typical male, they internalize when under stress or go into their man cave. If it's more than occasional though, you need to put some thought into this.

A man in love with you that knows how to treat a woman will not go hot and cold on her. A man who respects his woman will not go hot and cold. A man goes hot and cold like I said above, she is either enabling him or he is just not on the same page.

Why would a guy like this keep you around? It's simple. He doesn't want to be alone, he more than likely gets sex and companionship. You may be a space saver, saving space for the next girl or the right girl. I know that is a tough pill to swallow, but you know you deserve more than always wondering why men blow hot and cold.

Can you take a man from hot and cold to commitment? I think you can, but it's not with your words, it's with your actions. To learn how to use actions instead of words, visit here.

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