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Depression And Your Relationships
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Depression And Your Relationships

Have you noticed how people treat you when you are depressed? Depression affects your relationship with others in negative ways if your depression is not overcome. Why do depressed people shun intimacy and drive people who are close to them away? To understand this, we need to know how a depressed person's mindset works.

Depression may be caused by low self esteem and no self worth

Someone with low self esteem naturally considers himself not good enough or not worth to be around. Hence, this person will exude a sense of 'I want to be alone' or 'I'm not good enough to be with you'. This is usually not done consciously as the depressed person is too wrapped up in his own worries and situation to notice he is pushing you away.

Do not be offended or take it to heart when a depressed person pushes you away. He or she is thinking he'd rather deal with his or her problems by themselves. How do you deal with this? If you are a family member or a friend, all you can do is tell that person that you are available if they need to talk and they don't need to shoulder their woes themselves.

Depression causes rifts that cannot be mend

If you have a spouse or someone close who is depressed, he or she may cause a rift that cannot be mend if you let depression stand between the both of you. I once lost a friend because I became very depressed and forgot that there were others besides me to think about. I lashed out when I got angry and when I was in the low phase, I became unapproachable. This inherently created a gap between us and we became further and further apart because I could not control my depression.

Don't let depression be the cause of you being separated from your loved one. If you are depressed, don't forget that you are cared about and you still need to deal with your family members and friends. They are usually more than willing to help you and all you have to do is open up. Most depressed people make the mistake of keeping their feelings bottled up and lashing out when the feelings become unbearable. Their loved ones will be hurt and suffer too.

I fought hard to overcome depression because I knew that other people depend on me too especially my family. I did not want to jeopardize the bonds between us because I knew if I were to get into trouble, my family will always be the one to come to my aid first.

So, if you are being pushed away by someone who seems depressed, don't reciprocate by ignoring him or her in return. Offer your willingness to help even if it means just listening to them.


Street Talk

Thank you for your advice on what to do. It's difficult to understand when you're not in the situation yourself.

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  about 7 years ago
  

Depression is hard to understand if you haven't experienced it or have not seen someone near you face it. It takes a long time to heal though but with enough support by family and friends, it's much easier to get through. Thanks for reading Heather!

Reply
  about 7 years ago
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