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I'm Disabled, How Can I Become Independent?
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I\'m Disabled, How Can I Become Independent?

My name is Harvey. I had a stroke in April,2011. My life has completely changed because I became a disabled individual in the blink of an eye. Basically, I lost physical function in the left side if my body. Fortunately for me, I don't think the stroke affected my mental capacity.

Despite what has happened, I consider myself lucky and have a lot to live for. I hope I can share my experience in how I overcame obstacles. I will share the tools and products I have found useful to enjoy life and becoming more independent. Luckily, I had some savings before my stroke occurred. I went through a divorce within 6 months of the stroke.

A stroke is hardship on everyone, not only the survivor. I guess, that's life and it's not always fair. I managed to survive the divorce process and still get to see my kids every other weekend. While this was going on, I was keeping up with my therapy.

Although, I have not regained much function in my left arm(I'm left-handed), my walking has improved and have learned to do many tasks with my right hand, including dressing, grooming, eating, writing and typing. I even took a rehab driving course and passed a DMV road exam and now I'm able to drive with adaptive devices which allow me to safely drive with only my right hand. Driving is very important in becoming independent. I can go to my appointments, meet friends, take my kids out, etc., without having to ask anyone. I don’t know about you, but I really don’t like asking for help. It might be pride or ego, but I like to do things myself. Sometimes, though, help is needed. Hopefully, it comes in the form where the help, helps you help yourself. I have been called, handicapped, disabled, impaired, restricted, impaired, incapacitated, afflicted, unfit, etc. How did I overcome all of this negativity? I just put my head down and worked hard at my therapies, and exercising. There were the typical ups and downs that turn into extreme frustration.

I still haven’t recovered everything, and probably never will, but I’m not going to let that end my enjoyment of life. I’m only 47 years old with fairly young kids, and a new, beautiful, caring wife Despite, what happened, I consider myself lucky and have a lot to live for. I hope I can share my experience in how I overcame obstacles. I will share the tools and products I have found useful to enjoy life and becoming independent.

Going back to work is another issue....Despite ADA/EEO laws, my employer has not allowed me to return to work. I'm currently working with an attorney to resolve this. In the meantime, I've been collecting unemployment because I was turned down by Social Security(also appealing). I can't say enough about my new wife. She works very hard and has been very understanding while I'm fighting to return to work. I understand savings and unemployment benefits won't last forever, so I've been looking for other ways to generate income.

After endless searching, I finally stumbled onto online marketing affiliate program. Being skeptical, I did a lot of research and found they have a free trial with no credit card required. Truly, there was no obligation, so I gave it a try. After 2 days of intense reading/training, I was able to build my own website . I'm not very tech savvy, so this was a big accomplishment for me. MY OWN WEBSITE!!!! This not a get rich quick scheme and it takes hard work and perseverance . Being disabled, makes it very challenging to find meaningful work/income. I hope this is another path to independence.


Street Talk

Harvey, you are an inspiration and will be for a lot of people. Keep writing about the experiences you are going through. You are not alone. It not only will help you 'write out' what is inside you and what frustrates you but also this is better and cheaper than therapy! Through your incredible writing and sharing your experience you will bring up a lot of, very important social issues and help many people in similar issues to see what it is like to have your life and outlook changed. A lot of people don't know how these events of life can change our lives. It can happen to anyone, any time. You already have made the first step of making positive changes in your life. Keep writing here and work with Wealthy Affiliate. This might sound strange but from these trying experiences sometimes very positive changes come into our lives. I can't even imagine what you are going through. Your relationships with people will be tested too. You will know who the real loving, caring people are around you. I only had a few pinched nerves in my back and walk with a stick at the moment but even that brought very serious changes in my life and how people look at me and how they treat me. That's all right. I have become stronger, better, working hard to regain my health as much as possible and just like you, had to rethink how I make money. Harvey, to give you hope, there are a lot of fantastic work from home business opportunities! A few years from now on you will look back and smile. Set your goals., sit down with your wife and put on paper what you need and where are you heading now and start working toward your goals. All will work out with time! I wish you all the best and look forward to reading you inspiring articles! Kind regards, Piroska

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  about 8 years ago

Thank you,Piroska! You don't know how much it means to me to have my voice heard and that it could possibly help someone else. It's been over two years, and sometimes, I still feel like I'm trapped in somebody else's body. Comments like yours are also an inspiration. Feel free to visit my website and leave your comments. I 'm not sure how to do it yet, but I'd like to start having open dialogues on my website. I've been to other forums online, but most were started by caregivers, which is fine too, because they are also victims. But, it is nice to relate to others who are in the same shoes. .Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my article. All the best to you and hope to hear from you again, Harvey

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  about 8 years ago
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