You've been through a lot over the past couple of years. In some ways it has left your marriage and your hearts a little worse for the wear. With so many things dragging you down and holding you back, saving your marriage seems nearly impossible. Are you asking, "How can we avoid divorce after all we've been through together?" Does it seem like it's a little too much to hope for? Part of you wants so much to make it work but you're afraid to hope, right? It's not too late. You can save your marriage even now.

It's a great thing that you're interested in saving your marriage. It's also good that you realize that things happen to drag you apart. You probably even realize that you both bear some of the fault for whatever it is that has gone wrong in your marriage. That doesn't mean that you're bad people or even that you are bad for each other. It just means that sometimes life throws a few curve balls that knock us all off our game. When your marriage is what has suffered as a result though it's time to take a step back from the plate until you're ready to get your "A" game going all over again.

You've played the game before and you have a few good games behind you. You know you work well together as a team and are sure you can really hit this one out of the park if you give it an honest too goodness "college try." The thing you don't know is how to get started. The dissension in the ranks is so thick you can almost taste it and that makes working together a little difficult to do. It might seem impossible but you can still save your marriage even after all the bad stuff has happened but you're going to have to do one thing first.

You're going to have to put the past behind you and leave it there. There is no future in the past. It's an old saying that holds as true today as it did the first time it was uttered. You can't move forward if you're both so busy holding onto the pain, hurt, and disappointments of the past. So your first move is to let those things go.

You need to start over as a couple and pretend you are both back at day one. Wipe the slate clean. There are no old fights. No old expectations and disappointments. There is no bad blood between you. When you reach that point together, you only have a wide open future open to you and divorce will not need to be an option on the table at all. You can get your ex back and have the future you had dreamed of but you have to forgive and forget before that can happen.