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Your wedding day, a day like no other and one of the happiest days in your life. At the beginning you both were blissfully happy, but then the reality of life set in. Getting along with each other becomes a chore, and arguements get more intense. Or, the opposite happens no arguements, but no talking either. Maybe one, or both of you, just do not care any more. Whatever is going on in the marriage at the moment you are at the point of looking to know how to stop a divorce. Just so you know, it might not be easy, but it is entirely possible if you do things the right way.

You need to know for sure that a divorce is looming before taking any action. If the divorce papers have been served on you, you have your answer. If on the other hand you just have a feeling your marriage is heading in that direction, or during an arguement the threat of divorce was hurled at you, then take a closer look at things before making assumptions on whether or not it will happen.

Now if there is no doubt a divorce is going to happen, what honestly can you do? The next steps taken will depend on whethere it was you or your spouse who got the ball rolling. If your the one who whats the divorce, you'll have to do some damage control. You'll have to explain to your partner why you are wanting a divorce, but then turn around and explain why divorce is no longer necassary. Now, your spouse might not act the way you think about this, so remain calm and do your best to articulate why you now want to call off the divorce.

If your spouse started things, you'll have to use different tactics to stop a divorce. First off agree with them acknowledging that things aren't going well. Normally, we get defensive about ourselfs and try to explain that things are not as bad as they seem. Obviously, your spouse, but asking for a divorce thinks things are bad. But, when you agree with them, it takes them off gaurd and you can than engage in a better conversation. A conversation that will keep you on track to saving your marriage.

At times just a few conversations will not be enough to resolve thing, it happens, so be ok with it. However, you do not have to quit just yet. Go see a marrage councelor, do whatever has to be done to see one. do the best you can to get your partner to agree to see one, just do not be pushy about it. If they will not go, try to discover the reason why. You just want to know their objectives, so refrain from being judgemental. Knowing these things will help keep your mind at ease. People see marriage councelors all the time, it is quite normal. Many wait until the last minute when they need to stop a divorce, others seek out advice through their marriage. Either way you choose,getting professional advice workd wonders in helping keep your marriage in one piece and will go a long way in making it a happier marriage.


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