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How To Know When It Is Time For Divorce
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Perhaps, one of the hardest things in life is learning how to know when it is time for divorce. This is brought about by the fact that we always have high hopes at the start of a relationship. It is inevitable that we begin to foresee our future with the person whom we think is “the one.” We start to see life through rose-tinted glasses. All of a sudden, the world has become a much better place to live in. We look forward to tomorrow, and so we make plans of spending the future with our partner.

Unfortunately, not all love stories have happy endings. A marriage, no matter how seemingly perfect at the beginning, can still crumble – especially if a conflict exists. Sometimes, no matter how hard you and your spouse try to work things out, some things just do not work, and we have to be able to come to terms with such idea. For some, divorce is never an option. Trying so hard to honor one’s vows, ‘for better or for worse’, can be draining, and this will ultimately do the marriage more harm than good.

While it may seem valiant and honorable to stay and fight, making the decision to give up and let go is also just as hard and brave. The fact remains that there are certain circumstances in our lives that requires for us to let go because letting go is the best, if not the only, option. It is not being cowardly. It means that you are selfless enough to take the necessary steps to save yourself and your spouse from further unwanted stresses and strains.

Keep your eyes open and identify the signs as soon as they start to appear. This will help you make the right decision. If you want to learn how to know when it is time for divorce, below are signs to help you decipher if it’s the right time to call it quits.

How to Know When It Is Time for Divorce

Everything Feels Wrong – it seems that everything your spouse does angers or irritates you. His/her voice seems like nails on a chalkboard. You look at your spouse and your anger is triggered – and the feeling is mutual.

Exhausted of Trying – making things work, especially when it comes to marital issues, is extremely tiring for both parties. The woman will usually try to reconnect with the man, but in response, the man would dodge or reject his wife. Eventually, the woman will get tired of trying that she will withdraw and isolate herself from the man. This can happen vice-versa.

Sex is Out of the Equation – when the idea of making love with your spouse makes the two of you think of emitting a nasty projectile of vomit, then it’s time to re-evaluate your feelings and your option. Yes, you and your supposed partner may not see eye-to-eye or can never agree on important issues, but if it has reached this point, then better hire a lawyer.

Resentment and Despair – these are sure signs to know it’s time for divorce. When things aren’t working out, both parties hurt each other, saying things that sometimes they don’t mean to say, while most times they do mean it. Dissolution of marriage happens when both the husband and wife harbor indignant emotions. Yet, instead of verbalizing those emotions, they end up bottling it all up, and when the lid pops, hell would be unleashed.

The bottom line is to know when to quit. If warning signs are flashing saying that it’s over, draft a voluntary and graceful exit, rather than waging a war.

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