Your divorce is now final. It's been signed in blood. The thing is, you're not sure if you should celebrate or cry. Is there a certain way you're supposed to feel now that it's over? The paperwork is signed and the legalities have been tended too but you don't feel like there's some huge sense of purpose or even finality about the situation. If anything, you feel more confused than ever. One minute you're just glad that it's over and are hoping your life can get back to some semblance of normalcy. The next minute you feel like your heart is breaking all over again and you'll never really be whole. How are you supposed to feel after your divorce?

Divorce is a devastating event. People react in different ways. Some people throw divorce parties to celebrate the final decree that dissolves their marriages. Others mourn in silence. There is no right or wrong way to feel at a time like this. For the most part, this is a sad occasion. Those who throw the elaborate parties celebrating the demise of their marriage are often hiding a deeper pain or just looking for a reason to gather their support system close around at a time that would otherwise be extremely difficult for them.

The bottom line is that you should feel how you feel at the moment. There's no need to try to force yourself to feel something you don't or to chastise yourself for you feel. Many people experience an emotional roller coaster at a time like this. It's not easy to go through the process of a divorce. When you get to the "finish line" so to speak there might very well be a mixture of relief that it's over, sadness, and excitement about the future. Or you could just want to get your ex back and try to make your marriage work. All these emotions are quite common at a time like this.

There's no need to worry about what you're feeling unless you've reached a point where the sadness is overwhelming and you can't find moments of levity or clarity. When your life is too overwhelming due to the fact that you've gotten a divorce then it's time to take a step back and see where life takes you.

The real beauty about this situation isn't in what you feel but in the fact that this is a period of transition in your life. You can use this time to forge ahead and build a new future for yourself. Or, you can choose to go back and get what you've lost. If you decide to save your marriage and try to make it work this time be sure you have a plan for success in mind.