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Moving On From A Divorce – Spoil Yourself Guilt Free
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Moving on from a divorce is not difficult provided that you have self-confidence and empathy for your former spouse. Often we tend to harbor negative feelings for our spouse and we begin playing the blame game. All of our pain and anger is directed at them without addressing our own part in the break up of the marriage.

Even if you you’re not the one that ended the marriage, understanding where he or she is coming from will help you to put yourself in their shoes. It’s often easy to say we would never do what they did, however everyone has been weak at some point in their lives, including you. No one begins a relationship with the intent of hurting the other party, but we often make choices that are based on emotion without using a clear head.

When you can accept that your former spouse is not an evil person, then you will be ready to move on with your life and you will be emotionally available to enter into a new relationship. If you still carry a lot of anger and resentment, you are never going to be able to move on. This anger will bleed over into other areas of your life, preventing you from being fulfilled and ready to love someone else.

If you have difficulty in being on your own, sometimes it helps to join a support group with others who are in your same position. This exchange of thoughts and feelings might help you to see a little more clearly as well as provide relationships and exposure to new people. By talking to people who fully understand how you feel, you be able to talk through any negative feelings so that you can let them go.

You need to approach moving on from a divorce as a new start in life. When you begin to think of all of the possibilities, you should be filled with excitement. You can decorate your place any way you want. You no longer have to make concessions for someone else and you can live a bit selfishly for a while. Many newly single people find this quite liberating. You can truly begin to do things just for yourself without feeling guilty about how this might affect someone else. This gives your mind and emotions a break and you can spoil yourself for the first time in a long time.

Moving on from a divorce doesn’t have to be a negative thing. Be excited about the opportunities that this opens up for you and you will soon be living life to its fullest.

Some people need a little push in the right direction to move on from a divorce. Get help for Getting Over A Divorce For Men here. There is Life After Divorce For Women here.


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