You're facing a divorce and you are so torn about what you should do. Part of you wants to fight like everything to save your marriage and make it work. But there's another part of you that just feels so tired of trying to swim upstream and is ready to walk away and let it end. You still love your husband. You know that he still loves you. That's what makes this so hard. You just can't seem to make things work together as husband and wife. You want to know, "Should I work to stop my divorce or should I just walk away and let my marriage end? How do I know what the right move to make really is?"

A decision like this is one that is deeply personal. It's definitely not a choice you should make on a whim. When you come to a crossroads like this where you don't know what the right move to make really is; it's time to take a step back and look at things through a different lens. Instead of trying to evaluate how you feel about your husband and your marriage, maybe it's time to sit down and write a list of all the pros and cons of remaining married. Then you should create a separate list that includes all the pros and cons of getting a divorce.

Lists like this may seem a little callous to some but it is meant to help you find reasons to appreciate your marriage and your husband. The goal is not meant to serve as a tool for moving on or creating a "balance sheet" to represent the sum total of your marriage. But for many people it takes creating a list like this to see what the other person really contributes to the relationship. Making one now can help you save your marriage now so that you aren't looking for ways to get your ex back in the future.

But there are other benefits to making these lists than just learning to appreciate all that your husband does for you. You might also come to discover that some of the little things he does that drive you crazy, like obsessing over tire pressure and oil changes, are actually his way of protecting you and showing his love. You might be able to appreciate your husband in different ways than ever before and even learn to empathize with him for feeling the brunt of your reaction to some of these moments too.

Only you can decide whether it's worth it to put in the elbow grease to save your marriage or if you should walk away now. But, as long as you're willing to do the work to save your marriage it's never too late to make it work.