It’s a heartbreaking thing to see a marriage fall apart and what’s worse is when they wind up in a messy divorce. Everything gets torn apart…if there are children involved it’s a terrible thing for them. They don’t want to see their parents fight and move out from one another and split the family apart.

So…are you asking yourself…how do I stop my divorce? Can I save my marriage and keep my family together? When you are at the point where you are thinking divorce just remember…there are many options open to you both that have yet to be exhausted and you both should do everything in your power to seek them out. If you’re arguing too much then seek a counselor…somebody to get in the middle and moderate.

The single most important aspect here is that you both must be completely committed to saving your marriage, if you both are not; it is more than likely a hopeless situation. But, if you both want to stop your divorce and both willing to admit your mistakes then that is a very good first step. And know this…There Is No Such Thing as a Perfect Marriage!! You will have disagreements…You will have problems. The test of a good marriage is that you both are willing to work through the bad times to get to the good ones.

When two people decide to spend the rest of their life together they end up spending the rest of their life getting to know each other because there are certain things you are not going to find out about someone until you have already tied that knot and that’s what you both have to learn to live with and except in one another. Again…anything can be overcome if that is what you both really want.

Another thing…the both of you MUST communicate…if you don’t communicate with each other then you are both wide open to disagreements because of misinterpretation. Honesty is not the best policy…it is the ONLY policy. There’s no room for lies and deceitfulness in any marriage.

You will both have to be willing to compromise when situations arise. Very few marriages go anywhere without compromise. Sometimes you pitch…sometimes you catch. The important thing is that you both find the middle ground for the benefit of the marriage. The “it’s my way or the highway” mentality will get you just exactly that…the highway!

Now granted…there are some cases where the grievances are just too damaging…infidelity being probably the worse. That being said, you can still stop your divorce if you both desire it. But you both have to be willing to forgive one another and really mean it. It will take a lot of time and patience for the both of you but if you both want to save your marriage then it will take that kind of huge commitment.