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Forget What You Think You Know About Domestic Violence
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Forget What You Think You Know About Domestic Violence

Forget what you think you know about the term "domestic violence". I am sure that most people have an idea of the kind of person that is assaulted by a loved one, starting with the fact that they are female.Statistically, that is a sad fact, but it is not the whole picture. Many people think it only happens to the poor women of the world, in urban neighborhoods and the backwoods rural places. Surely there is no domestic violence happening in suburbs or in gated communities. Surely the wealthy people in their mansions are immune to domestic violence, right? Domestic violence knows nothing about wealth and a lack of it. There is no location that it does not show its ugly face in. No one is immune to it.

But, there is more that most people do not know about domestic violence. They do not know that the average victim tries and fails to leave their abuser seven times before they are able to succeed. Not all victims make it out alive. Not all victims even make it out at all. Some spend their whole lives, miserable, sad and scared, hiding their pain and their wounds from everyone, hoping that they will be able to stop the hitting, the shouting and the other abuses that are heaped upon their heads on a weekly, even a nightly basis. They fail though, their screams silent to the outside world, echoing through their own heads, over and over. It is sad but they become detached, almost immune to the pain so the abuser has to continually up the ante over and over.

The number of people who are in abusive relationships may never be fully known. You can find statistics but for every woman or man who can say yes, I have been abused there are countless others who force a smile to their lips and say no, they are fine. No, they are not being screamed at, pushed, pulled, punched or kicked. No one has ever thrown them down the steps or threatened to kill their pets or worse if they try to leave. For every known victim there are dozens more, silently pleading for help as we pass them on the street, on the bus, in the next desk at work, in our mirrors.

Forget what you think you know about domestic violence. The media can never give you the full story, anyway. But understand this: there are no boundaries that this monster will not cross, no demographic that is immune to its bite and understand this as well, it affects you, every single one of you whether it is directly or indirectly. It hides in the dark; it is time to throw it into the light once and for all.


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Makes you wonder why we can do these things to our fellow humans. thansk for the eye opening article Amie.

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  about 9 years ago

I do a great deal of volunteer work through my church and I see a lot. You are correct there is a lot of abuse that goes on that most people never know about. Carried out against people that you would never think were abused and by people you would never think would be abusers.

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  about 9 years ago

And that is just one day in my life....everyone tells me I should write a book, an autobiography....my life as a musician and later scientist in infectious diseases..and now I live on an island on a sailboat and have been through 2 major life threatening car wrecks and a major life threatening normally fatal disease..oh and 7 hurricanes.....it has been quite the life and I only now that there is more to come...thank God for every minute of it.....now that I said that it does kind of sound like an intriguing book.....we shall see....

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  about 9 years ago

Yes, I have been abused.......Luckily I has my personal protection Doberman (who was trained with positive reenforcement...which means the dog had never been hit) in the room and the dog nailed him in the foot.(He was a hand and foot dog and he nailed him in the arch of his foot....that petty much stops them from doing anything else and they have to pay attention to their foot)....yes I said "Good boy." ......I later found out that I was this man's 5th wife and that he really was trying to quit. When i found out that he had a small child daughter that had bruises on her until the wife left him, I was in shock that I had married such a man. They try to shut you off from all the other people you have as friends and relatives....It is a way of life they are brought up with from what I experienced and nothing short of a gun will stop them. i sat in the kitchen chair for 3 days with my dog by my side and a gun in my hand to make certain that he would not come back.....I then moved away.....Thanks for posting and getting this message out.....So many people are not even believing that this happens in real life.

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  about 9 years ago

No You are right they dont really believe it. They think its only a LIFETIME movie or something and even that is exaggerated. I had ppl who knew they were his family... and they even had told me i exaggerated it. Until one night they stopped by felt the tension in the room so they left and within 5 minutes my daughter was callin them back for help. When they came in and saw me and the blood all over the house up to the ceilings, cuz he cut an artery, his own cousin who was like a brother hunted him down that night. What was strange is that he hit his gf as well all the time! But after that night of seeing how bad it had gotten from his cousin he never touched her that way again. So ppl need to be made aware... and those women out there who cry abuse when they arent or rape when they are not are not helping us in any way. That is alot of the reason behind the disbelief that it is occurring....

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  about 9 years ago
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