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A person can develop self worth at an early age, but I think it is up to the parents to help with instilling that characteristic in them. See when I was a little girl I was always told I could never be nothing and do nothing except for being a child bearer. I was told that I was worthless so you can image what that did to my self esteem and my self worth at a young age. So for the longest time I didn't have any goals or dreams, I just thought I would be like the rest of those who lived in the inner city! Have a bunch of babies and get on welfare, but for some reason I always felt as though there were more to life than what I was told or shown. See, when a kid is humiliated day in and day out, they start questioning their ability of being able to do or get things right.
How about teenagers, their self value takes on a whole different meaning that will cause them to act as though they have lost their mind. The changes they go through; their body goes through makes their self worth goes down ten times more than everybody else. They start feeling insecure about themselves, noticing every little thing. You could tell them they look pretty or beautiful or handsome and they will look at you, as if your from Mars and start crying, having attitude or you could get a totally opposite reaction. If they are one that loves the attention then they will take the changes in stride, which could improve their ability to be comfortable around others.
Did you know that most adults are still dealing with low self-esteem, because of things that were said or done to them at an early age? It could have also come from a bad situation that occurred in their life. Such as getting fired from a job that you've been on for 15 years or how about getting a separation from a spouse, these things definitely will have some kind of effect on a person.
I know cause I for one went through it for a while in my adult life. But I think at some point you have to come to a place of liking or better yet, loving yourself. Loving who you are, but not in a conceded way. Appreciating all the great qualities that you bring to the table. I had to come to that point myself, that I was no longer going to walk in a place of being inferior to anyone. And from that moment on I was a change in my own self and then other people was able to see the change as well.
Building yourself up can be a hard thing to do, it's something you have to work at all the time, like everyday. If you do this you'll start gaining self confidence, just as I did. I think the biggest challenge will be to focus on your inner strength and change the way you see stuff. You are going to have to become more positive and look for the good in life and what it is that you can bring to the table.
You absolutely can not worry about what other people think of you or how they view you. People are going to be people, and there will always be somebody who don't like something about you, and I always say their the ones with the problem, not me. I just keep it moving, and that's what you are going to have to do as well. Take some time out, go and get your hair done, get your nails done, and make some positive changes that will make you feel and look good.
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