Attitude in this context is the way you think and feel about something or somebody and how you behave towards the person or the things you have feelings for.

It is very natural to win friends with your attitude. And this is why you have to endeavour to polish your attitude to fit the right kind of people you what to have as friends.

Define your kind of friendship

The first step to keeping a friend with your own attitude is to define the type of friendship you want to have. It does not matter, even if you are going to write down the attributes of this your friend on paper. It is very important that you keep a clear picture of whom you want to have as a friend in mind, because this will help you know the kind of friend you want to fight for and the distance you are willing to go for this your friend and the friendship.

Develop yourself

Try to understand that you do not go into a relationship to change people otherwise you will end up complaining. The best and easiest person to change in a relationship is you. But your attitude can do a lot in changing someone.

Honesty

I do not know if there is any other place where honesty matters more than in friendship. Honesty is the driving force of friendship; it turns employees into friends with their bosses, strengthens the family and creates trust in friendship. The future of friendship depends on honesty.

Avoiding the familiarity that breeds contempt

Yes avoid the familiarity that breeds contempt. In this statement I mean that you should lighten up the friendship with the same energy that you used in the earliest days of your relationship making use of the important dates and anniversaries like birthdays and Christmas. Visiting every event’s of your friends like it is the first time you are called to that event, tidying your rooms when you are expecting your friends, and avoid counting on the fact that he understands you or that you have been together for a longtime.

Mutual Respect

One of the key things that kills friendship is the lack of mutual respect, a lot of this can come from being familiar but often times it is an attitude problem of negligence and being nonchalant. Know that everyone wants to be respected, friendship or no friendship, it becomes more serious when your friend or partner starts feeling he is not respected. In other words, you are only trying to tell your friend that his presence is of no importance to you.

Nothing goes for Nothing

There is no such thing as always getting without giving something in return. It does not have to be in cash but there are also so many ways in which we can help our friends, it could be time, money, advice or comfort or maybe something more.

Understanding the secrets you are taking into a relationship

Try to understand that inasmuch as it is not advisable to keep secrets in a relationship, it is not all secrets that are meant to be taken in to a relationship, for instance, telling someone’s secret to another friend, or a secret that is suppose to stay with your natural family. Your true friend should understand that.

Apologies should not wait

Be quick to apologize not only when you are wrong but also when you feel you or to, or there is a need for it, avoid long arguments but try to get to the root of the root of the problem. At the beginning of an argument, it may be difficult to prove your point at the instance of a problem but there are always better times to clarify yourself.

It is okay to say NO sometimes

Finally, we can always say no. By this statement I mean we should avoid being taken advantage of, in our friendship or going out of our way just to return a favor that could be very harmful to us and the society or favors that could be irrelevant.

The bottom line is that attitude is everything, and by working on our own attitude towards relationships, we instill this attitude in others without knowing.