Everyone in your life has some sort of value or worth to you. What scale do you use to measure their value or worth to you? There are many different ways we all do this, some are good and some are just plain selfish. When you only value someone for what they can do for you that is a very selfish thing to do. This tends to be a practice for the majority of us.

At some point in your life you do look at someone and think what can the do for me that I would not have to do for myself. I know I have done it and I am sure you have too. But if you have not then good for you, you are one of the few. It may be that they deserve to be either used or taken advantage of in your eyes for some wrong they may have done to you. You may feel like they owe you something because you helped them out a time or two.

Well the truth of the matter is at least to me, they do not owe you anything. No matter what you may think or how you feel about that subject. Not your parents, your spouse, your children and anyone else you hold close to you, much less a complete stranger. Just because you were kind enough to go out of your way to do a good deed for someone does not mean you are owed one in return by that person. In the end no good deed goes unturned. You will get what is owed you but it may not be what you think or wanted.

Many people will come and go in your life, some will use, abuse, and take advantage of your kindness. This should be taken in to account with this person, not everyone else that comes after them. These bumps in the road should not change who you are. What others do to you is not a reflection of you it is a reflection of them and their selfishness. It makes you no better when you take a fight fire with fire attitude towards the situation.

I have had several people in my life who used, abused, and took advantage of me. Some over time others right off the bat. This in itself leads to self doubt and question what is wrong with you and why are you so gullible. But only you allow it. You have the power to let whatever happens effect you or not. You can just take it for what it is worth and know how they are and eliminate them from your life. It is also up to you whether you let it continue to go on or put a stop to it. Now what are the people in your life worth to you.