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Is It A Good Idea To Be Friends With Your Ex Girlfriend? - Not If You Want Her Back
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Is It A Good Idea To Be Friends With Your Ex Girlfriend?  -  Not If You Want Her Back

Have you found yourself in a situation where your ex girlfriend wants to be friends and now you are wondering if it is a good idea or not? Well, if you have no desire to be with them then it would be okay. However, if you are still wanting a physical and intimate relationship and are hoping to mend things up with her, then the answer is no. This would be a very bad idea.

We will discuss some things you can do in order to make your ex girlfriend desire you again and want to be with you, but let's dig into this a bit more and unfold the answers you are looking for. Look, right now your emotions are high and you are probably really confused and hurt. Research studies have shown that emotions we deal with after a break-up are akin to grief as if someone has just died. You should realize that this is completely normal. It will take some time to get over and it certainly isn't going to happen overnight.

All break ups have a process of grieving and you must deal with your grief and pain before making sense of everything and begin to move on or move forward to mend things with your ex. Realize that it might not be final. Just because your girlfriend broke up with you doesn't mean that she doesn't love you or that you will never be together again. If you want her back figure out what caused the problem and work on correcting those things in order to make her desire you again.

She Said That She Wants To Be Friends

As I stated before, trying to be friends after a break up is just plain out toxic and it will never work. It is common for people to try this when going through a break up, but it almost never works. Many people experiment with this simply because eliminating their ex from their lives completely is hard and painful. To compromise this way may seem like a great idea to the one doing the breaking up, however it is not a good idea for the person being broken up with. It is also down right selfish and thoughtless. If you allow her to "have her cake and eat it too" she will keep doing this and use you.

By telling her it's all or nothing put her in a predicament to work out whether she wants to be with you or whether she should cut you from her life for good. You may be told you are giving them an unfair ultimatum. This is an effort to make you feel guilty to give in to her wants. Do not fall for it; stand firm on your choice. Be kind, but assertive. She may start doubting her choice on breaking up with you and before you know it you got her in the palm of your hand and back in your life.

What To Say When She Asks To Remain Friends

Look, as much as you love her and want to be with her you must not give in to being just friends. The feelings of wanting her so bad is normal, but just being her friend is not what you want. You want more than that and not getting it will only lead to aggravation and a feeling of complete loss of any type of control in your life. You should sit her down and explain to her that leading on being just friends will only cause problems because you want more than that and it wouldn't be fair to either party. Once she sees that you are serious about this she will understand that there will no longer be you in her life at all.

She will likely start second guessing her decision about the break up if she cares about you at all. Another big reason to make this choice is for the simple fact that if she doesn't have you around she will start to miss you and chase you. Never let a girl tell you she just wants to be friends. This is her way of having you around when she wants or when it is convenient to her. If she cares at all she will change her way of thinking real quick. Just remember, stick to your guns and be nice doing it!

What To Do To Get Her To Want Me

There are many things you can do to win back your ex girlfriend. Many times going out with friends, grabbing some dinner and a movie with someone will definitely spark up a fire in her. If she finds out and has a ton of questions about what you did you know she is jealous and doesn't like the fact at hand. Simply tell her that they are just friends and explain to her that you really want to be with her, but she is the one who has made the decision to break up. It won't take long and she'll be hanging on your coat tail chasing you. Sometimes a good reality check is all some people need. Don't sit in self pity and let her see you like that. Show her that you are willing to move on if that is the only choice she has left you with.

Your Next Step

The first step is the easiest, yet hardest step there is. You must be realistic and find out if she wants to be back with you in the first place. Finding out if she is over you is quite simple, just learn to read the signs. There is no reason in chasing something you can't catch or making yourself look foolish to your friends and family. She has free will and if she loves you she would not be doing anything but sitting home with a bucket of ice cream watching love movies and crying. I threw a little humor in, but you get my point.

The next thing that you need to do after finding out where you stand, is to use Facebook as a tool to reignite her interest in you. Learn the proven Facebook techniques that will make her desire you again and regret the break up. Thousands of guys are using these tricks now to turn the whole break up around.


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