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My Ex Boyfriend Wants To Stay Friends After The Break Up - Is It A Good Idea?
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My Ex Boyfriend Wants To Stay Friends After The Break Up  -  Is It A Good Idea?

All of us have heard the dreaded phrase "Let's just be friends" at one time or another. When you're dealing with a difficult break up, these words can feel almost like a slap in the face. It may seem perfectly natural that since you like this person as a person that perhaps you could still be friends after the girlfriend stage has passed. Perhaps you feel that even though you constantly argued and fought as a couple, that you can still keep this person in your life as a friend. Some former couples actually do manage to remains friends and can keep in contact with each other on a friendship basis. They may even still hang out. This may work for some people, but is not always advisable for others to be friends after the break up, even when both parties are mature adults.

There are several reasons for this. The most likely reason is that you could still be in love with your ex. If you've reached a point where you both truly can be "just friends", this probably means both people have fallen out of love with each other, and no longer see each other in a romantic way. If you find yourself even slightly wanting something more from the relationship, you're obviously not ready for the "just friends" scenario. The same holds true if you were the one who initiated the breakup with him. You may be able to maintain a friendship, but it could leave him always wanting and hoping for more. Usually, the one who has been hurt is the one who still pines for the other person, and this can ultimately put a strain on any real type of friendship situation.

At first, staying friends with your ex can seem like the perfect solution. You still get to have contact with this person, spend time with them, and keep them in your life on some level. Without the romantic entanglement, you've eliminated the pressure on yourselves. You'll probably even notice that you no longer fight and disagree about everything like when you were boyfriend and girlfriend. You don't have to miss them because they are still part of your life. It all sounds like peaches and cream...but is it really?

The reality of the situation is that in all likelihood, you will encounter problems with your newfound "friendship". At first, you may both have a great time together, with no strain or pressure. But, eventually, one or both of you will find your thoughts drifting to sex. It may seem like the perfect situation, two "friends" who are already comfortable with each other and who already know each other intimately. After all, you were once together as a couple.

The reality is that sleeping with your ex again can stir up old emotions and lead to a renewed emotional attachment by one or both people. This is not something you want or need in your new "friendship" role to each other. The friendship was supposed to eliminate the feelings of obligation or pressure you once felt, and now you may find yourself expecting something from the other person, such as a phone call every day, etc. This can lead to hurt feelings and feelings of being used when the other person does not call regularly as you expected them to when you were "together". But remember, you are "just friends" now...see where the trouble starts?

Another problem arises when your ex starts seeing someone new. The person who is still single may start to have feelings of jealousy and feel less important because you are no longer spending as much time together. He or she no longer has as much to spend to spend with you as a friend because of the new love interest in their life. Then comes the awkwardness of potentially meeting their new boyfriend or girlfriend. Someone's feelings can get easily hurt in such scenarios. This is even true if you've managed up to this time to maintain a healthy friendship without sexual benefits. It can be difficult to watch your ex move on while leaving you behind.

If you as the women find a new boyfriend, your new guy may not be so keen on you spending all of this time with your ex. The "he's just a friend" line may not fly, because he is aware you two have a history together that goes beyond friendship. The fact that you've slept with this person will most likely make your new man a little unnerved if you're still spending time with him. This can lead to some awkwardness and cause problems in your new relationship as well.

For those women who secretly desires to get back together with their ex boyfriend, the staying friends with your ex boyfriend plan may sound like a great idea. You may feel this gives you an inside advantage because you can still have contact with him and keep tabs on what he's been up to. You may also feel that being his friend will give you the time and the opportunity to get close enough to him to win him back.

But wait a minute...let's be honest here.

If you attempt to be friends with your ex boyfriend while you are still in love with him, you are setting yourself up for even more pain and heartache than your break up caused. If the guys realizes you're still pining over him, he may lavish in the attention, may even sleep with you, and use the situation to his advantage while he strings you along until he meets someone new. Remember, you're "just friends" now, so he is not obligated to be with you. He is free to see, date, and sleep with whomever he wants to. Your job as his friend is to smile happily and wish him well. Forget it!

If you really want your boyfriend back, attempting to be friends with him can actually be a stumbling block. To get him back, you will need to break free from your past relationship and start over. The past is gone, so you need to create a new environment in which your ex will see you in a different light and want you back. If you are "just friends", you cannot expect the relationship to lead to anything more. The longer you keep up the friendship phase, the harder it will be to establish a new real relationship with your ex.

Don't settle for less that what you truly want from the relationship. Fight for the relationship you really want by going about it in the right ways that will make him miss you, think about you, and want you in his life as more than a friend again. This is the only proper way to heal from the breakup and have the chance to start dating as a couple again. If you are not 100% completely over your ex, being his friend always leads to a dead end.

What To Do Next

Now, you will need to come up with a plan that allows him to see you as a potential girlfriend once again. You know this guy well, so you should know how to get certain psychological responses from him. Use this knowledge to find ways to make him want you again, and reignite the spark of desire.

After you do this, you should have an idea about whether or not he still might want you back. You should able to learn the signs he still loves you and if there is a real potential for the two of you to reunite. Once you know how he truly feels, you are in a better position to get him back, or to let go for good.


Street Talk

I never believed in love spells or magic until I met this spell caster once when i went to see my friend in Indian this year on a business summit. I meant a man who's name is Dr ATILA he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one's gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I'm now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 5 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3years. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to Canada, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn't believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is atilahealinghome@yahoo. com

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  about 8 years ago

i was pregnant when my boyfriend ended thing up with me to be cos he was too scared to be father at least that hat he said and that why he wanted to break up with me but really he want to go be with some other girl.But i loved him too much to let him just work out like that on me and my unborn child so i use a spell i had MUTTON cast for me and it worked cos why he was meant to be my and MUTTON just needed to bring to life that part of him that was heads over heels for me.And to be frank with you all MUTTON is one of the last few real and reliable spell caster read about him online and see other testimony just say if you need to save your relationship contact him with godsofosunx@rocketmail. com

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  about 8 years ago
anita5  

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  about 8 years ago

My name is cheney from uk. I never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once when i went to Africa in February this year on a business summit. I meant a man who’s name is DR.EGOGO he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3years. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided, skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to Canada, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is egogotemple@yahoo. com

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  about 8 years ago
fiana  

I have been scammed so many years by fake spell casters unit i found one man online called Dr.Zack Balo from the wiseindividualspell@gmail. com . I found him to be truth and been honest to me and he delivered me results exactly on the 3 days he told me that the spell is going to work. My life changed after that the spell was being cast for my husband to come back.

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  about 8 years ago

Most person probably don't want to read what a lesbian has to say but those who are look for way to get their relationship back, i need you to read this carefully and understand what i'm writing.Spell casting is real, as real as you walking to a pizza store to get one to eat.But you have to be carefully not to contact the wrong spell caster cos some can really ruin your life for you.I was going to mention one real and trust worthy spell caster to you all but still it your choice to want help for him.I mean i'm not asking any one to contact him i just want you to know maybe feel you like you're drowning in your problem and there is no way out then contact BOLOGO for help and i promise you will be glad you did cos he is true and honest with is clients.contact via email chiefpriestofogunshrine@gmail. com

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  about 8 years ago
Thanks  

Hello World my name is Rebecca am from USA i want to testify the great thing dr okpa did for me I never taught i could get my lover back after living me for good 4years, i was browsing on the net when i saw a woman testified on how she was helped by dr okpa,at first i looked at it as what i have seen before, because i have contacted many spell caters online which made away with my money, so i was convinced not to contact him. so in the next 2 days i was watching television when i saw a man named harry was giving testimony on the television on how this same dr okpa helped him, so when i saw this then i have nothing to doubt again immediately i contacted him and i told him how my lover left me for good 4years then he told me not to worry that my love will come back to me in the next 24 hours, i did not doubt him at all because i have seen the evidence that this man ids great, so that was how i had to wait till the time which he told me, immediately the 24hours got complete i had a call from a strange number a first i neglected the call because i don't like picking up strange numbers, the next thing i could see again was a text message from the same number then i had to read it when i opened it i could not believe what i was seeing, the text was from my love who left me for 4years he was saying that he is sorry that i should try and pick his call that was how he called again then i pick up, he was crying on the phone pleading to me that i should forgive him that now he is ready to stay with me forever that he is very sorry for what he did to me.I was so surprised and i was short of words, then i told him that i have forgiven him, that was how he came to my house in the next 3hours the moment he saw me he went on his knees he was pleading again them i told him is alright, that was how i got my lover back and the most surprising part was that he gave me access to his bank account and he now he both me a new Toyota Camry(car) and we are planning for our wedding am happy now and both of us are happy now i thank dr okpa for all his help and i pray to God to keep him alive so who so ever is in heart break should be helped as i was helped.if you want to contact him to bring back happiness into your life as he has done mine you can contact him via okpatempleofsolution@gmail. com or cell number +2348056563186

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  about 8 years ago
Thanks  

Hello World my name is Rebecca am from USA i want to testify the great thing dr okpa did for me I never taught i could get my lover back after living me for good 4years, i was browsing on the net when i saw a woman testified on how she was helped by dr okpa,at first i looked at it as what i have seen before, because i have contacted many spell caters online which made away with my money, so i was convinced not to contact him. so in the next 2 days i was watching television when i saw a man named harry was giving testimony on the television on how this same dr okpa helped him, so when i saw this then i have nothing to doubt again immediately i contacted him and i told him how my lover left me for good 4years then he told me not to worry that my love will come back to me in the next 24 hours, i did not doubt him at all because i have seen the evidence that this man ids great, so that was how i had to wait till the time which he told me, immediately the 24hours got complete i had a call from a strange number a first i neglected the call because i don't like picking up strange numbers, the next thing i could see again was a text message from the same number then i had to read it when i opened it i could not believe what i was seeing, the text was from my love who left me for 4years he was saying that he is sorry that i should try and pick his call that was how he called again then i pick up, he was crying on the phone pleading to me that i should forgive him that now he is ready to stay with me forever that he is very sorry for what he did to me.I was so surprised and i was short of words, then i told him that i have forgiven him, that was how he came to my house in the next 3hours the moment he saw me he went on his knees he was pleading again them i told him is alright, that was how i got my lover back and the most surprising part was that he gave me access to his bank account and he now he both me a new Toyota Camry(car) and we are planning for our wedding am happy now and both of us are happy now i thank dr okpa for all his help and i pray to God to keep him alive so who so ever is in heart break should be helped as i was helped.if you want to contact him to bring back happiness into your life as he has done mine you can contact him via okpatempleofsolution@gmail. com or cell number +2348056563186

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  about 8 years ago
Thanks  

Am am Erica from the united state of america am here to testify in the name of this great man who has brought back happiness into my family after my lover Samuel left me for good 3years for another woman,i really loved Samuel because he was my first love i tried everything within my power to get Samuel back to my life but people i meant just kept on scamming me and lying to me,Then normally on Saturdays i do go out to make my hair and get some stuff,Then i had people discussing at the saloon if they do listen to there radio well,That there is the program (how i got back my ex)And started talking much about Dr ikuku how this man has helped lots of people in bringing back there lover,So immediately i went close to those ladies i meant at the saloon and i explained things to them they said i should try and contact Dr ikuku that he has been the talk of the town and people are really contacting him for help immediately we searched on the internet and read great things about Dr ikuku i now got all Dr ikuku contact instantly at the saloon i gave Dr ikuku a call and i shared my problem with him he just told me not to worry that i should just be happy,He just told me to send him some few details which i did,And then he got back to me that everything would be okay within 36hours i was so happy then Dr ikuku did his work and he did not fail me,My lover Samuel came to me in tears and apologized to me for leaving me in deep pain for good 3years,So he decided to prove that he will never leave me for any reason he made me had access to his account and made me his next of kin on all his will,Now the most perfect thing is that he can't spend a minute without seeing me or calling me,Am so grateful to dr ikuku for bringing back the happiness which i lack for years,Please contact dr ikuku for help he his a trustworthy man ikukutempleofsolution@gmail. com or cell Number +2348034458597

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  about 8 years ago
hanna  

i just want to share my testimony here.. i was married for 15 years to my husband and all of a sudden, another woman came into the life of my husband.. he started hailing me and he was abusive..but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all cost…then he filed for divorce..my whole life was turning apart and i didn't know what to do..he moved out of the house and abandoned me and my 5 kids.. so someone told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster called Ultimate spell…so i decided to try it reluctantly..although i didn't believe in all those things… then when he cast the spell, after 3 days that he told me, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn't believe it.. anyways we are back together now and we are happy..in case anyone needs this man help, his email address ultimatespelltemple1@gmail. com his spells is for a better life.

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  about 8 years ago
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