So who has been in a break up lately? Do you or someone you know? If you are reading this article it is probably because you are going through one as you read. In this article I want to let you into a trick a found when my girlfriend broke up with me almost two years ago. I have to tell you that today we are still together and very happy. We were even included in the album number 15 for the happiest gay and lesbian couples by Wipe Out Homophobia on Facebook, which I think is pretty cool.

Just to tell you a little background on how I figured out this golden tactic when she broke up with me to get her back, here is a little story behind it. My girl was sure that I was cheating on her or at least than I was seeing somebody via Facebook, to me she was just acting weird because I had no idea she was suspecting something that was not there in the first place. Anyway, in a matter of two days of caos in our relationship, she finally asked me for time to talk to each other. I knew what was going to happen. And it did.

She broke up with me.

I cried, plead and begged.

I know, pathetic!

Well, after that, of course I kept feeling horrible and missing her for the following days but I wanted her back so I looked for ways of getting her attention and interest all over again. I learned that crying and begging was not going to help me, in fact, I learned that doing such things were signs for her reinforcing her "good decision" of dumping me. So I stopped.

Then, I learned a couple of things that really helped me getting her back. One of them was what I call "the one killer way of surviving a break up and getting her back for good" move. I even told her about this after we got back together. She laughed but agreed on its effectiveness in between other things that complemented the whole getting her back process. Here it is:

Are you ready?

It is very simple, maybe it will sound stupid...

Or, maybe it will be something that you already know but have not seen the power behind it.

Here it is.

Work on yourself, become more attractive to you, her and the world around you.

This will help you build confidence in you all over again. When we get into a relationship we tend to forget about ourselves and give it all to that person. Trying to make her happy forgetting about the things we love and like doing. Think about it, she liked you for what and how you were when you guys met. Get the chance and be that person again.

There are a few more things to be done when getting your girl back, this is one of them. These things could help you or break you, so you need to know what to do, what to say and when to act. All right? So there it is, go ahead and get your lesbian lover back with confidence.