Is It Okay To Be A Spoiling Grandparent?
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Should there be rules for grandparents? Or should Grandparents be able to go with the common philosophy of spoil your grandkids and then send them home.

This is a fairly broad topic since spoiling can mean something different to a parent and to a grandparent. In the research I’ve done, and the fact that I am a grandparent of three I have come to the conclusion that yes, there should be some guidelines for grandparents to follow. First, I want to make it very clear that grandparents are an essential part of their grandchildren’s lives for several reasons: Grandparents, tell a story of their parent’s lives. Making their parents human to their children, and allowing them to see that they made mistakes as well. It’s important for children as they grow to hear stories of what life was like when their grandparents were young. Before computers, cell phones, social media (one had to look in an encyclopedia for information). What did they do for entertainment? Kids will be surprised! They more than likely will want to engage in a conversation about that time period. Grandparents teach children about history, unconditional love, the importance of values, having good character, good manners and respect. They build up their grandchildren's self-worth and self-esteem. They give their grandchildren their undivided attention and endless hugs and kisses.

As for the guidelines: As Grandparents we should respect the rules of the parents within reason. If parents are firm on no candy because of the behavior they see afterwards, then it should be respected if they are heading home soon. If there are behavioral issues parents are working on with their child, it is very important that grandparents follow through as well and do as the parents ask. It is vital for grandparents to show a united front with parents, and if there is an issue it should be discussed away from the children and in private.

Now for toys, most of the research I’ve found is be reasonable and responsible about it. Don’t buy expensive gifts just because, or every time you see your grandchildren because you have the means to do so. The child/children will become dependent on it. Therefore, when it doesn’t happen undesired behavior would show up. Do spend quality time with your grandkids with activities such as: cooking, scrap booking family photos, doing crafts together, playing with toys, building with blocks or magnetic tiles, tea parties, bike riding, etc… If you have multiple grandchildren and there is an opportunity to take them separately for a special date now and then that is highly encouraged. That one on one time will bond you to your grandchildren, along with giving each grandchild a special memory with you. Be sure to treat all your grandchildren equally and not play favorites. This could be hurtful to your other grandchildren and to the parents. All parents want to see their parents love on their children, and most will not be upset with a toy here and there for no reason.


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