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Are You A Giver Or A Taker? 5 Steps To Become A Giver
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Are You A Giver Or A Taker? 5 Steps to Become A Giver

This is one thing I try to ask myself on a daily basis. I want to be a giver, not a taker. Why, you may ask. Well, I find that being a giver is much more rewarding than being a taker.

This is not to say that when you given something you should not take it. Along with learning to be a good giver, you also need to learn how to be a gracious receiver. This is different than being a taker.

A taker drains people. They abuse people. They act as though everyone is put on earth to do for them. I know many of those types of people, and quite frankly, I avoid them at all costs. They will drain the life out of you. Look inside yourself and see if that is the kind of person you are.

Five Steps to Take to be a Giver, Not a Taker

  1. ​Write down all the members of your household and list one thing you will do for them today with no agenda attached. You do not expect anything in return for doing this.
  2. Do small things all day long for coworkers, those in the grocery line, at the bank, on the street. This could be helping someone load their groceries, letting someone in front of you in line, opening a door for someone.
  3. When you do things for others do not tell anyone. Do not brag about what you have done. Just do them and be satisfied that you helped someone today.
  4. Show appreciation when someone does something for you. Say thank you.
  5. Write a note to someone you care about and praise them for things they do.

They say it takes 21 days to form a habit. If you take the steps above and do at least one -- or more-- every day for 21 days you should build a habit of being a giver.

You will also learn to appreciate things people do for you. We should notice throughout the day what people do for us. Sometimes we just come to expect it and don't realize that those kind people really don't have to do that for us.

How many times has someone does something for you and you just kind of grunted and walked away or dismissed them. This can be very hurtful to others. People being kind should be acknowledged.

If you are a giver, good for you! But there is probably one thing you need to learn to do ad that's become a gracious receiver. I have met many people that will give their time, give their money, give their life, but when someone gives them something or tries to help them with something, they are just awful! They will say, no, I don't need your help. Or no, don't give me a gift. Who are you to deprive someone else of being a giver? Why would you take that joy away from them?

We need to be gracious receivers. We need to be excited and let the giver know that we really appreciate what they have done for us. Just because you assign yourself as a giver doesn't mean you can take the joy of someone else being a giver to you. Be a gracious receiver as well as a humble giver.


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Joyce, your article is great

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  about 5 years ago

Thanks, Geoffrey!

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  about 5 years ago

welcome

  
  about 5 years ago

My ex-wife gave me papers, and I graciously received a divorce in return. I've been living by your advice for years, Joyce! Nice article. :-)

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  about 5 years ago

Well, it seems as thought you learned that lesson well! :)

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  about 5 years ago
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