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There are two different types of people on this Earth, one who pleases others and one who is pleased by others. I am mainly going to discuss the pleaser because this is what I know more about. That person you know you can call and they never tell you no (well maybe almost never). They will do little thing to make you happy because they know you like it. Some of the people pleasers don’t expect anything in return (usually most). What ever they do they do it out of the goodness of their heart. They are happy because they make others happy.

Well this is all well and good but the pleasers have feelings too and sometimes they get tired of pleasing everyone and want someone to please them. Well now I realize you may be thinking that they are not a true pleaser then, well yes and no. But they are human and to me no human can go through life and not want something in return. They may not ask for it out right because most pleasers don’t know how to ask someone for something. They usually don’t expect anyone to do anything for them and may have a hard time accepting when someone does something for them.

They may be untrusting of others and are sometimes perfectionists who would just rather do it themselves because they want it done their way. When they could just tell the person how they want it done and let them do it. This is very hard sometimes and they may feel some guilt when someone does something for them because they may feel they should have done it themselves.

Pleasing people can be very stressful as well, once you’re known as this type of person people will ask for your help in a variety of ways. Sometimes you may not mind doing some things but there may be times when people pleasing tank may be full to overflowing. This is where the problem really starts. The more people ask from you, take from you, and you give the less there is of you.

The more people take from you the less you have to give to the ones you really should be giving to, and the less you will be willing to give to others who don’t really deserve it. But the pleaser may not always feel that way. This person may not know how to stop doing for others and maybe that’s just their lot in life. I have spent the better part of my life doing my best to please others, putting their wants and needs before my own. This can be very rewarding seeing the ones you love and care about happy because of you. But for me it leaves me wondering when is it going to be my turn. When is someone going to do for me?

Well I think sometimes they are afraid to do for me because I can be critical and I am a perfectionist. I also don’t know how to accept the help or what they have done for me. It feels to me like a set up, because most people are not nice and don’t do things for others unless they want something in return. It would be such a nicer, better place on this Earth if we all just did things for others out of the goodness of our own heart (within reason I might add). No expectations just give of ourselves for personal growth and achievement, not for bragging rights and selfishness.

Well I guess one might say I am an optimist with a pessimistic mind. Or I am just not based in reality because that is just the way of the world, getting messed over (and I used a nice word). But I am me and I will continue to do what I can to help those who ask of me expecting nothing in return but my own personal achievement. What will you do for someone out of the goodness of your heart?


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