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What Is The Gift Of Forgiveness?
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What is the Gift Of Forgiveness?

What is meant by the gift of forgiveness?

Some would say it is the act of forgiving someone for something they have done to you. And they would be partly right. When we forgive, we are giving forgiveness for some wrongdoing to us. We say, you have done this to me, but I am going to forgive you and I'm not going to hold it against you.

But, in forgiving, we do not have to forget. And we probably won't forget. The worse the offense, the harder it will be to forget, and some say, to forgive.

If we are going to live our life on our terms we must learn to forgive. We let that incident go and put it away. We only need to bring it out again when we are trying to make decisions that this might be a learning experience from. If we really forgive there will be no need to throw it in the face of the perpetrator or to dwell on it in our own mind.

Forgiveness can be one of the best gifts we will give ourselves. For if we do not forgive for those things done to us then we carry it around with us day in and day out. We dwell on it. We let it control our lives. We let it dictate what we will do today because we have to make time to think about it and deal with it.

Once we forgive of that offense, then we can let it go and not have to deal with it anymore. Again, we don't necessarily forget it, we just forgive that it was done to us so we can get on with our lives. Sometimes we have to dig down really deep to be able to forgive, but once we do that a burden is lifted. A resentment is lifted.

Why are we going to let someone have that kind of control over us? Just think about it. If a person knows that they can do something to hurt you, they want to do something to hurt you, and you continue to live with that hurt day in and day out, you are living with that person every day.

If you let it go, you forgive them, then you don't have to deal with it anymore. They have no hold on you any longer and you can do the things that make you happy. You will feel lighter, happier, and free.

So what is meant by the gift of forgiving? Maybe it is the best gift you can give yourself.


Street Talk

Good reminders! Forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves so we can get on with our lives. Forgiving repeatedly helps us. No matter what.

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  about 7 years ago

Yes, Cynthia. Some people become very bitter old people because they fail to realize forgiving is a gift they give themselves. I know many bitter people and when you dig down you find out that they hold so many resentments against others. So forgive and live your life! :)

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  about 7 years ago

Indeed. That's how I've managed throughout life. The part I missed was the going on with your life without interacting with some people - forgiving is part one. Part two is the and moving on so we can get on with our lives! Some people and situations are dangerous.

  
  about 7 years ago

It is said that resentments will; keep you sick. While forgiving is a gift, it is getting harder to put into action as our world gets more and more cruel. Great article!

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  about 7 years ago

We really must continue to forgive so that we can get on with our lives. If was stay bogged down in resentment, we cannot possibly be of good to others, especially those that we love and that love us. Thanks for your comment.

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  about 7 years ago

Thanks for your insight!

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  about 7 years ago

your article is great

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  about 7 years ago

Thank you, Geoffrey! Appreciate you reading it! I am trying. One of the things I hate to do is write! LOL Bad business to be in, right? I'm sure I will overcome it. Thanks for the encouragement.

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  about 7 years ago

welcome

  
  about 7 years ago

Great article, Joan. You went and got sick on me, but I forgive you. :-)

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  about 7 years ago

Okay, buddy. Don't pick a fight. I forgive you! :)

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  about 7 years ago
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